Whats the point of socializing if you get nothing from it?

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Siiiiigh. One of Christmas's best kept secrets was that you could have a nice experience watching a movie on Christmas day while most people were at home doing whatever, the streets were relatively car-free, traffic was calm and movie theatres were one of the few places in town that were open and they were practically deserted. NOT ANYMORE ( ( (
I am in mourning.
It's the same when a rock band you know becomes really famous and suddenly they only play arenas and no longer small venues. Same sort of thing.
An era has passed.

If if don't see the point of it then don't do it. It's really a lot simplier than people imagine or at least try to rationalize.

I've come to the conclusion the last year or so when I turned 40 and all my firends where living together or married and I never had a steady girlfirend. I've tryed a few other times since then but same thing every time "you are a nice guy but I just want to be friends". I know they don't really mean that, they just say that to be nice. So I know no matter how hard I try, no matter what I do, I will be rejected at this point. If thats all that happened to you since you were interested in girls since you were 15 or so, would'nt you come to the same conclusion?

I did try to put put profiles on some of those free sites, using some of those same words to describe myself like you sugessted. I sent out a few emails to people, not just 'winks" or whatever, but real messages saying how I liked there profile and all that. No one responded back. Whats the point?

A few's not going to cut it... you have to be persistent.

What they mean is, "You're a nice guy so I just want to be friends.". Learn to cut guys down with sarcasm, girls seem to like this.

Let me repharse what I said. I sent out a bunch to people I thought had some of the same interests as me and I thought we may be a good match. Still no one writes back to me.

I think 99.9% of people know exactly how you feel..lol

Well just for perspective, I'll say this and then I'll shut up.

Direct marketing is generally held to be the most effective form of advertising. And in direct marketing, response rates are still very low. That's not even a sale (called a "conversion"), just plain response of any kind. If you get 1 in 50 or a 2% response rate, you're considered to be doing pretty well. And then you still have to close the sale.

Just tryin' to help is all.

i just dont give up on trying to fit in. hopefully one day i'll find the key

it can also take time. I honestly don't look at my inbox except once in a blue moon here.

Surprisingly, and proably counter-intuitively, the larger number of people around you, the more invisible you become. I used to go to concerts (back when they had festival seating, which actually meant festival standing... and stand shoulder to shoulder, and just get 'lost' in all the people.

I never feel lost in crowds. I feel more conspicuous than ever. I like places with a handful of people inside.