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emroidious
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11 Jan 2009, 2:04 am

garyww wrote:
That only works when you've remembered to put money in the bank in the first place.

I can agree with this statement. When I was living alone there were many a time where I put the check (which I had had for more than a week) in the bank the same day as mailing a bill; very risky business.

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I looked at both guides in order to see what they said about living independently, which I have done continuously for years yet always found a struggle. But, looking through both of them, I found nothing (though Marc Segar has flatshared and gives advice on that). I can appreciate though that only a small percentage of people on the spectrum live independently and that the writers of the guides may not have had experience of that.


We should probably put something in there about independent living then. I might not be the person to do it since I've had a lot of trouble with this, but someone among us is sure to have some excellent advice. There have been quite few times when I've struggled doing the most basic things like cleaning the bathroom or paying rent on time. I don't quite know what belongs in there, maybe something about bills and creating a weekly schedule for domestic chores? Keeping routines is something that people with AS are supposed to be good at, although in the long run I tend to keep my own schedule which doesn't include cleaning or bill paying (I wish I had a maid and secretary while in college).



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11 Jan 2009, 12:14 pm

Maybe it's not that the writers of the guide haven't experienced living independently. Maybe they have (or, like me, interdepependently, as in, married with a job) and they didn't see it as an issue. Or they haven't stuggled with it so can't address it.

Actually, though, I think the first one in linked in this thread is really more a social survival guide, rather than about literal survival.



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11 Jan 2009, 2:25 pm

They also seem to miss out on other issues. For instance, they do not talk much about "optimal coping skills". It is often not necesary to learn everything, and things should be prioritized. Another issue is how to socialize best with other Aspies, and developping friendships and relationships with Aspies instead of NTs, which makes many of the rules unnecesary. I can see why Marc Segar never brought up this, as few if any online autism-communities existed at this time. But know that they are here, the issue is very important.



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11 Jan 2009, 2:41 pm

rdos wrote:
They also seem to miss out on other issues. For instance, they do not talk much about "optimal coping skills". It is often not necesary to learn everything, and things should be prioritized. Another issue is how to socialize best with other Aspies, and developping friendships and relationships with Aspies instead of NTs, which makes many of the rules unnecesary. I can see why Marc Segar never brought up this, as few if any online autism-communities existed at this time. But know that they are here, the issue is very important.

There is nothing to stop you or others getting together and writing a book. Personally I think it might be a good idea.