Do aspis seek out aspies?

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Yes. They do.

My daughter has AS so I would have to disagree. Although, her IQ is in the gifted range so that sets her apart from most children her age. Other children with disabilities that has been around her have been too slow.

I think so, and I think it's very much a good thing.

girlfriend - also a self-dx'ed aspie

friend who comes over to watch movies once a week and calls about twice a day - ADHD

engineer at work I often have lunch with - special interests, some in common. Sometimes our conversations are repeats of conversations we had weeks or months prior. (Some traits, but would be better off to dodge the dx. He's doing quite okay in life.)

IRL I'm in a club for science fiction afficionados. At its meetings, people with the traits tend to gravitate toward me.

I like to be surrounded by intelligent people, &/or those who've paid the same kind of dues in life that I have.

I seek out Aspies in terms of romantic relationships, but I am indifferent in terms of friendships.

Not me. I find I can only deal with my own annoying'ness.

In my experience, I have to say yes.

I was not aware that I had any aspie tendencies. However, when I met my husband some 27 years ago, I was immediately drawn to him, and he to me. For me, it was like coming home. There was something very familiar about him. The strange thing is, I met him on a semester study in Spain. He is Spanish. I spoke almost no Spanish and he spoke no English. We could barely communicate. But we recognized something in each other that was, as I said, familiar. It turns out that we both are aspie.

Both of our sons are on the spectrum, as well. Our older son's best friends are on the spectrum.

Only if they know. I have to admit many of my friends are not 'normal', but as for aspiness...maybe one of them. To be honest, I'm still waiting for someone to show me the secret handshake or gang sign by which we're supposed to recognize each other...

One of the reasons why a bigger school can sometimes be better for aspies is that they have a higher chance of having more than one aspie per year group.

I'll have to see if I can actually find it in my book, but I remember reading that aspies tend to seek out others like themselves. The chapter did also go onto say say some other interesting things, explaining how aspies tend to be naive and can get mixed up with the wrong people (people trying to take advantage of them) but I suppose that's getting a little off-topic. The title of the book I'm speaking of "Adults with Aspergers"

i seek out goths/metalheads/extroverted insanely bright people as there's a better chance of them being intelligent/interesting/tasteful...although some very normal looking people have really surprised me in the past...i guess i'm just as prejudiced as everyone else...lol x

The New York Times reported in 2007, "About one child in 150 develops autism or a related disorder like Asperger’s syndrome by the age of 8, according to a study released yesterday by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention." That's pretty rare. (Although with all the undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, and subclinical cases of AS one encounters on Wrong Planet, there are probably many more of us, since the CDC data only counts reported diagnoses.)

No Aspies in my school growing up, but my best friend had ADHD.

In college, I hung out with a number of Aspies and people I thought were Aspies. My boyfriend had AS, another friend was also dx'd with AS, and several other people I hung out with I thought might have AS.

Even if it's off-topic, it's certainly nothing to ignore in a discussion like this.

This is why I believe Aspies should be building a subculture of our own, overlapping with other subcultures, especially the "geek" ones. (I've seen Trekkies pull some awful crap on each other, and have heard of the same going on with Goths, Gamers, Star Wars fans, etc.) Basically, knowing "who's who" in the overlapping cultures, particularly who the sociopaths and other vermin are so we can help each other avoid them.

I tend to avoid them like the plague, especially IRL

just wanted to say to garmonbozia..."love the avatar"

Stealth Aspie -- you never hear me coming

well, unless I'm talking to myself
or fiddling with my keys
or humming

dammit! need to perfect this stealth technology...

I seek fellow aspies out as well. after looking back on past gf's don't think any were AS, then again nothing lasted longer than six months (now that's a ringing endorsement for me!). don't have a lot of offline friends of my two Best friends, one definitely has some aspieness to him.

I don't think an Aspie consciously seeks another out. I think what happens is NT kids won't be friends with Aspie kids. So the only ones that will play or talk to an Aspie is another Aspie.