Another "Do I have ASS BURGERS?!" Thread

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Right then. Thanks for your input sunshower

I would say Bodhi (the tree, right?) that you sound alot like me, lol. I would definately talk to a professional about this, at least when you have the time and money (ah, all of us in the US have no money lol) or when you get insurance.

Social things comfound me sometimes, my mom tells me not to talk about my personal stuff like disclosing the fact to a total stranger that I am a lesbian, or going on and on about my interests etc.

I know what it is like to have a crush on someone and not be able to tell her, either because I don't know how or its just that its harder to find a lesbian mate in this society. My hometown doesn't exactly have alot of homosexual venues.

I would keep on top of this Asperger's thing and keep reading about it, then perhaps when you can you can get a diagnosis. Finding out why you are the way you are is a real eye-opener, at least for me it was because growing up, I never could get why I was so different and it was heartbreaking for both me and my family.

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You can have also a mix of Schizoid and Avoidant PD (it is not rare the commorbity of the two).


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_p ... y_disorder
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_p ... y_disorder

However, I supose that your high results in the quizzs point more to AS.

What I did when I suspected AS was to take a really good look at the criteria. To see which ones I fit, which ones I don't fit. I didn't know what all of them meant yet. But I wanted to get an idea of what they could mean in relation to my own life.

Overall, it was really helpful because it helped me getting an idea what ASDs are about. The triad of impairment is what professionals look for.

Questions that arise from the criteria are for example: what about non-verbal cues? When you now go and start a conversation/interaction with your parents, siblings, friends, strangers - when you look at their face, do you have an idea of what their expressions means? Remember that guessing doesn't count. You should know. If you know - how do you know? Thinking something like 'so the corners of their mouth are turned upwards and their eyebrows are relaxed...' would make me question your ability to read body language.

What about your own expressions? Do people comment on it, do you think there's something different about how you look on photos and in videos...?

Do family and friends usually know what you like and like best and are interested in?

Easy, hard or normal to find friends? If you have friends, think about who initiated that friendship and especially about what you did to be friends with them, to make them like you and take an interested in you.

You already mentioned a bit about 'special interests'.

But what about routines? If you don't know what that means - just saying, because I certainly didn't know when I suspected a hf verbal ASD: if somebody got into your room now and asked you to do... the laundry, would you mind? Beyond feeling lazy and hating chores, would it distress you, make you nervous, really really anger you? If a friend called to meet you in two hours or meet you this evening, what do think of that?
Do you mind taking detours, going new ways to get to places? Do you usually take familiar paths for non-economical reasons? Do you need to sit somewhere special at home, at school, at work...

Ever caught yourself doing odd movements, annoying (to others mostly) movements... could have been in childhood too. Especially flapping hands is a kid thing. Though it's hard to ask for this if you either do not have it or if you're unaware of it. Which most peole probably are, I think.

When did you start talking? Any unusual occurrences during your early speech development? Your mother should know about that one.

That's all, like, the very basics for professional evaluation.

Truth is, I never pay attention to facial expressions when I talk to people. I just go in thinking they won't mind hearing what I have to say. Thinking about it, I can only picture a blank stare when I initiate conversations. Obviously I know that if they're smiling, they're at least content. I don't think I can give a complete answer to that though, since I don't pay attention to such things.

As for my own expressions, people often say I look pensive, or deep in thought. I also have this thing where I get wide-eyed often, for no reason. I think that has something to do with my eyesight or perhaps my eye's sensitivity. I've been told I always tend to furrow my brow as well. Other than that, people haven't mentioned anything.

Family and friends know me as more of an artistic (or creative) bookworm and writer. That's certainly not hard to figure out

I find it incredibly difficult to make friends. All of my friendships were initiated by the other person, including the girl I mentioned. My kindness and sensitivity are really what kept the friendship going. I'd say I'm almost too polite (I don't think there's such a thing), and take on a formal tone with my conversations.

As far as routines go, I had never understood "disruption of routine" until now. I will tend to get anxious, then visibly angry when I'm told to do something such as laundry or the dishes. This was especially apparent during my adolescent years, but I've learned that there are things that just need to get done (plus, my mom would often get angry about me appearing selfish or lazy, and we'd fight constantly). My mom and I worked out an agreement. I was allowed to plan when I get things done. For example, I'd decide to do my laundry hours beforehand. I don't know if that's what you meant. I just told it like it was.

Now, if a friend calls me two hours before they want to hang out (which has happened often), I get very nervous and tense until the time arrives. I find it hard to focus while thinking "I meet Tyler in an hour, I meet Tyler in 45 minutes, I meet Tyler in 30 minutes...etc."

Also, I only walk or bike to places (I don't drive yet). To give an example, I biked to work last year. Even though I was aware that there was a much faster route to get there, I had so much trouble figuring it out because I was so used to my old route (I have a bad sense of direction) that I just stuck to that one because I was comfortable with it. I also always sit in familiar spots, but we are creatures of habit. It's human nature.

I flap my hands sometimes, but I don't know...that's more of a "I don't feel 'loose' enough" kind of thing.

Finally, I started talking at a normal age. When I actually developed a personality, I became very quiet, much like I am today.

Well, looks like that was all the questions. I don't even know if I was supposed to answer them or just think about them. Sorry