How do you react around people you don't like?

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I completely avoid them if I can. When I can't, I get very distant and cold.

I always had a lot of problems because of this - sometimes these people were part of the family or coworkers and it's very hard to explain why you cut them off without being considered some sort of monster.

i've got one at work. i'm in a very comfortable environment where i get on with everyone but this one guy (who's fairly new) is the exception. he (tries to) pick on me and so far i've put up with it and brushed it off in my usually meek fashion.

the question is, how to deal with him. i don't know whether to try and out-smart him with my whit or go at him all guns blazing. i've tried ignoring but he just follows me. I don't think that having AS makes it easy to deal with these kinda people.

2 methods:

1.Freeze out
2. f**k off with a meltdown.

works a treat.

I'm the opposite from the OP and a lot of other posters here - when I'm around someone I dislike, I have to try very hard to stay quiet and put up with them. Usually I have a ton of snarky comments I restrain myself from saying, as well as occasionally the impulse to punch them right in the face, mostly because unfortunately most people I don't like happen to be liked by people I actually do care about, and because I'm quite aware that I am generally less sympathetic and less able to turn people in my favor through manipulation than my enemies and opponents are.

If confrontation will make things worse on me rather than better, I'll sit back and wait for my opportunity. If it makes sense to wipe the floor with someone so long as I'm not relying on below-the-belt tactics, then I most definitely take the opportunity to do so.

I have no idea. This is a huge problem for me. I don't know how to deal with jerks. I must have an excessive amount of anger adrenaline. When someone treats me unfairly I see red.

This past year I had a very nasty dispute with someone where I work. First meeting I stormed out of his office - had to resist with all my will to not break something on the way out. I had to get a lawyer to argue with this person on my behalf because I was afraid I'd lose it being in the same room alone with him again. I felt like it was either that or risk something terrible.

Once my anger rises to a certain level it's like there's no turning back. I have to get away from them ASAP or I feel like I might go completely berserk. I was always very shy and timid when I was younger but since the age of 18 or so I've been a walking bomb sometimes.

Usually the people I don't like are the ones who don't like me, and i'm usually awkward around those people.

Ignore, avoid.

Avoid them if possible. If forced to be in the same room as them, continue with what I'm doing and ignore them unless asked a direct question; if so, give shortest possible answer in monotone voice and then go back to ignoring them.

I can relate to the posts here that describe how being around those they don't like makes them angry. I can feel rage boiling inside, as if either they will have to leave, I will have to leave, or I'll explode.

The only reason for being around people I do not like is because I feel there's a good reason to be around them.

If that happens, I act perfectly normal. Apparently, too normal.

Those people often appear to be confused and unlike me, behave in a way that is very rude and passive aggressive.

This reaction usually amuses me. I don't find it too hard to act nice and civil towards those who hate me and whom I hate back.

That's because I am not particularly interested about personal relationships. If I'm together with people whom I do not like then there is a reason and a goal. And it's that goal I think of and that is important to me only.

So of course I behave in a way that helps me achieve what I want or need to achieve.

Acting all rude and insulting isn't exactly helpful if you need to work together.

re turborocker5000 original Q'

i find i can't even fake indiffrence of being around someone i dislike.

i feel a strong physical sensation like that of the similar poles of magnets repelling each other and i get the mute thing as well; when i don't want to know someone i just can't disguise it.

i ignore people i dislike.
if they try to talk to me i tell them i am busy thinking.
if they persist i tell them i will have them removed if they do not leave me alone.
i do not care for people i do not like and they can not talk me out of it.
if they do not leave me alone they will be in trouble.