02 Feb 2009, 10:08 pm
go_around wrote:
I have been told that people in the service industry (especially people who depend heavily on tips) are taught to make good eye contact whenever possible, as this establishes some kind of bond between server and patron and increases the chances of a good tip. Apparently they don't also mention that if you have to really go out of your way for it (like doing a kneeling stare-down), you're probably crossing your patron's personal boundaries and will get exactly the opposite response.
(I don't know for sure this is true because I've definitely never had this kind of job and never will, but it's easy to see how through NT eyes this would be a perfectly logical thing to think. Especially given that there is no real nuance to it, and no thought given to how it might not always apply
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(I don't know for sure this is true because I've definitely never had this kind of job and never will, but it's easy to see how through NT eyes this would be a perfectly logical thing to think. Especially given that there is no real nuance to it, and no thought given to how it might not always apply
)I have actually heard an IDIOT getting accolades for claiming that waitresses should even SIT DOWN BESIDE and TOUCH patrons! She tried to act like some expert, etc.... If they do that with me, EVEN if I am there in an interview and/or with friends, I will take the shortest path, EVEN if that is EXTREME invasion of THEIR space and pushes them onto the floor, and just LEAVE! I would also talk with the manager. Frankly, if I had a bill, I wouldn't even wait to pay it.
Frankly, waitresses are SUPPOSED to act as genial hosts, or humble servants of a sort, to make the patrons happy, comfortable, and satisfied. If they succeed, the customers may even eat/drink more, and they may get a healthy tip! They are NOT there to act as business people that think they OWN the patrons, and treat the patrons as GUINEA PIGS!! !! !!
02 Feb 2009, 11:36 pm
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03 Feb 2009, 7:52 pm
go_around wrote:
I have been told that people in the service industry (especially people who depend heavily on tips) are taught to make good eye contact whenever possible, as this establishes some kind of bond between server and patron and increases the chances of a good tip. Apparently they don't also mention that if you have to really go out of your way for it (like doing a kneeling stare-down), you're probably crossing your patron's personal boundaries and will get exactly the opposite response.
(I don't know for sure this is true because I've definitely never had this kind of job and never will, but it's easy to see how through NT eyes this would be a perfectly logical thing to think. Especially given that there is no real nuance to it, and no thought given to how it might not always apply )
(I don't know for sure this is true because I've definitely never had this kind of job and never will, but it's easy to see how through NT eyes this would be a perfectly logical thing to think. Especially given that there is no real nuance to it, and no thought given to how it might not always apply
)It's true, I've read it and taken marketing classes, not so much the "stare down" and certainly not "pursuing" eye contact, but they are told to touch people, lightly for a few seconds and that this makes people more amenable to them. Way to backfire with an autie tho heh
03 Feb 2009, 7:58 pm
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