Are you afraid of meet-ups?

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I'm quite terrified TBH, I like the idea and talking about it but if it actually came to it I'm pretty sure I'd chicken out and just go exploring the town by myself

But of course that would deprive us of your company.

We don't bite..... Well maybe Reggie..... The leprecaun..... He does have a habit of following me and antagonising my friends without them knowing. hehehe, nah, just kidding.

I am curious and would want to go.. but I don't like people and they scare me

I'm apprehensive & maybe a little frightened that I still wouldn't fit in. But if there was an opportunity within about 100 miles (160 km) of my home, I'd pull myself together & go.

I'm a little wary. I just moved and I found what seems to be a pretty active AS meet up group here, but I'm going to have to really push myself to go to it. I tend to get preemptively intimidated and psych myself out of doing things.

Simple solution Greentea. Just invite me along and I can guarantee that you will not be THE outcast, as being the outcast is my area of expertise.

I am quite intrigued by the paradox of gatherings of outcasts. Will the least outcast assume the 'life and soul of the party' role, when otherwise they would be the wallflower? Or would it just be a lot of people in a room all looking down nervously before making excuses to leave after 15 minutes?

I think that's what often happens.

At university and for a couple of years afterwards, having managed to "gather" some odd friends together it seemed that I was one of the "life and souls" in that group, ( though my hypo-mania of that period might have had something to do with it aswell ), but in a group of NTs/normals I would be, and still am, generally the "outcast"/silent one. Which repeated experience has put me off most social gatherings completely for years now.

But at an AS gathering, like Autscape for instance, I might recover some of my confidence, and manage some successful social connection, simply because the way I interreact with others would not be constantly treated as weird.

But I am not sure about this; it is so long since I was with more than one "odd" person, ( of my few remaining friends ), at a time. And even then I notice I have become far more socially/conversationally subdued/hesitant/stumbling.
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ManErg, I've no idea why you call yourself an outcast, because you do have relationships with people.

i have a long history of saying yes to social events of any sort, and then i do not turn up.
I like the "idea" and hten when the actual event arrives i usually bunker down to a night in front of the tv or the computer.
i rarely go out for anything social.

I would however make an effort with a WP meet-up.
I'd have to get the fare together first -but i do believe i would really, really put everything into going.

i think i would like to meet some of the amazing people who frequent WP. And my suspision is is would sort out the real ASD people from the ones who just like to pretend they are>And i must also qualify the latter statement by stipulating i KNOW there would be lots of ASD people who simply couldn't come because such a gathering might be truly overwhelming.

I am mostly "the outcast", but I grow up with this and I would feel more uncomfortable if I would just one of the flock.

It is perhaps my strategy to deal with social interaction that I try to dominate any group I part of and to formalize the proceedings and make myself to the chair. It works quite often and I do think my physical appearance (190 cm, wide shoulders, moustache) helps here a lot by sending unwilling the signal: I am the "Alpha-Male", because I am taller than the rest.

I am far from being certain that this would work also if I would be just 150 cm ...

I'm not afraid at all. It sounds very fun. But i;d have to familiar with the people/person's posts before I did it. and I'd bring my mom. I had a meet up with OWA last January, and since we've been seeing each other. I'm here fort wo weeks, posting from his house.

I never had the desire to go to them unless I was going to be a center of attention like a guest speaker. If I was a celebrity I would freak out if the poperzotti was NOT fousing on me. Maybe I'm just a narcasist.

Hey, are you calling my bluff? I'll match your outcast-ness and raise it 4!! !!

How do you rate outcast level, anyway? How about the estimated number of days between you dying and your corpse being discovered? I should start a thread on this and we can all have a joyful time rating ourselves!

PS Mines about 6 days.

You fortunately have no idea what being an outcast is. And you deserve it that way, because you're a nice, intelligent, warm person.

By the way, I know 2 people whose corpses were discovered days after, and neither was an outcast or an Aspie. I knew them well.

If I died, I worry that my children would eat me as there would be no one to cook them dinner

That's a rather disturbing image. I'm sure you would taste good tho. Hehehe. I know that you don't like being quoted, so I responded after you.