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For me it wasn't really difficult to make the first posts, and that probably has to do with the fact that I am used to having remote contacts (although I do not like the phone most of the time, especially when people call me).

It's so much better and easyer than rl contacts.

I'm still here. I started posting a lot when I first joined. Then I had to fly from Europe to Canada, and I spent a couple of days in Montreal. Now I'm home so I have more time to post. I don't know why other people wouldn't keep posting. Fear perhaps? Not for me, forums are where I have the least anxiety.

I lurked for ages then joined and lurked some more.

What pushed me into posting was my mums heart attack and being banned from the university bar. I felt so low and alone I felt I had nothing to lose. The initial response was so possitive I continued. Sometimes I post a lot and if I get no response I worry I'm being a pest and hold off. Because the regulars have such a familiarity with each other I feel like a big mouth Johnny come lately if I say too much, but thats me, no small talk, no frills.

I must have no shame or inhibitions because I started posting right away when I found WP and haven't stopped since.

Maybe we seasoned members can make it easier on the newer folks and make an effort to frequent the Getting to Know Each Other forum more often, posting warm welcomes?

We can have an unofficial welcome committee!

For the new nervous folks-

Don't hesitate to jump in, I did yesterday. I feel it's better to just start hitting the post button if you feel like it. Partly I'm used to forums though, I joined my first one (fishing) back in Feb and was way nervous about it, like you all are describing.

Since then I've joined a few others in an effort to spread myself around and not post too much on my other boards! The original one became second nature and I felt like I was posting too much- luckily I found this site!

It's all in your head... what with the way the membership appears to have skyrocketed recently there are so many folks that a little ol' post from a newbie (including me) if it's irreverent or silly it'll probably just pass by the wayside... so fire away, make yourself at home- I did!

It's an amazing relief to be able to "talk" to folks who not only onderstand you in many ways but feel the same way... and you don't actually need to talk to them!! You'll most likely end up feeling more comfortable here than anywhere else.

Newbies (or shall I say "fellow newbies," as I joined only about a month ago) and lurkers:

Don't jump in if you don't want to. I figure the last thing you need is to feel uncomfortable being pressured to socialize in an environment that's full of people who are chronically uncomfortable with pressure to socialize!

(Someone has to argue the other side here. )

It's not unusual or strange in the slightest.

It happens in every forum. People register, and then the lose interest or forget to come back.

I know for a fact i've dones it to HEAPs of places.

I'm used to jumping in feet first and posting on whatever topic to get myself noticed. I post on eBay forums (under the same screen-name) which have a higher turnover of topics and posts, so I may post too much. Also you can't edit posts on eBay so I tend to re-post rather than edit.

But I think a regular clique does put off casual posters. It happens on eBay so much that regulars usually jump down a newbie's throat, which puts them off.

The way i live my life is the same way i get into a swimming pool.
i jump right in.
i dont get embarrassed until i notice my swimming trunks floating nearby. That's not my fault, the water is pretty cold, really its just cold.

I am kidding.

I don't think i belong to any cliques, don't like cliques personally.

Its just that i have found some people who make me feel small in my own brain, but i enjoy the challenge.

Others give me passion. i love to feel.

others are just whores (maybe i am) but they have a place as well.

i enjoy the personalities because, it helps me to better understand myself, others, and gives me greater understanding and is a drug for my curious mind.

Welcome to all.
don't fear, we can't see you anyways.

When I first came here I didn't post much because I was overwhelmed by the amount of forums and threads. I came to the chat though.

I don't think it's that unusual. They might come back. When I first joined WP, I made a post inroducing myself, and I didn't post again until about a month later.

I never did introduce myself... just started posting in corners here and there, figuring nobody would notice. I think I was right. But then I started seeing a few people who posted in the same threads I did, and I liked their personalities, so I ended up kind of stalking them across the forums, joining in whenever they posted. I only really got noticed though a few months later, when I made close enough friends with a member to consider meeting them in real life.

I just became a member a coulple of weeks ago and I dont get many replies unless I private message someone. I just left a thread like this one posted by Violentcloud. He's been member a little longer than I and posted many times and he feels like no one responds to him. When I first came to this site, I was intimidated by the intelligence and cleverness that so many of you posess. I wondered if I wasn't out of my league. But the more I read I could really relate to alot of what is said on this forum. I decided to post, anyway. I figure if everyone is still ignoring me after 2 or 3 months, I'll take the hint! Maybe, I'm too normal. One thing I've noticed is that the same people, usually the really witty ones, post to each other constantly and everyone else seems to respond to them. I'm no expert on social interaction on-line or in person so I'm not complaining, just stating what I observe. I am also overwhelmed with the enormous amount of threads and pages on threads. I could sit here all day and night reading and responding to thread!! (in fact, my teenagers are telling me I'm addicted!) I am new to the world of computers and have never owned one or used one until Sept. of 05 when I began on-line college courses. I have noticed that in my school forums, when the class is large, the teacher will break us up into smaller discussion groups. This might be a possible solution for those who wish to make some friends and become a little more intimate instead of posting to over 100 or so people!

Question: I've noticed that only I and Prisonersix (love that guy) try to write a book every time we post. Is this considered bad taste on the web? I'm very green so I need all the advice I can get. (Doesn't mean I'll listen to it, though!) Also, people don't need to spare my feelings, I'm not easily wounded or angered. I need blunt honesty.