Yourself at age 6 - a way to predict your social carrier?

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I was on top of the world at 6

I think that's nonsense. I was actually much more sociable age 6 than I am now.

I was more social at 6. At 7? that's when it went downhill.

I think beliefs like that are starting to change. I know that old studies showed that if you didn't get something right at a very young age, you would go off in that wrong direction for the rest of your life. But recent studies are starting to show that these things are fixable later in life. It might take a little more work as you get older, but it's certainly possible.

Certainly for me, I had no friends at age 6 either. I simply didn't want any friends. I was perfectly happy being independent. As I've gotten older, I've wanted friends more and more, and, when I enetered college, I joined a club and started to work on my social skills. Even to this day, I am becoming more and more of a social person, although I am pretty isolated compared to most NTs my age.

Aren't AS people supposed to be FAR more social until perhaps about 8? Many now say that the inate(to human kind) social skills work until somewhere between 6 and 8. Then, AFTER THAT, THINGS CHANGE! I was actually BETTER up until about 6, and things started changing, at least about friends, etc.... Prior to 8, I think that I was generally liked. I had about as many friends as anyone else. I EVEN had some parties where a number of people(like over a dozen) came. HECK, I EVEN swung most of my enemies over to my side! MOST became friends, and the rest at least acted like it. Even people that WEREN'T my friends seemed to respect me. Of course, LATER it was a different story.

At age 6 I was much different socially than I am now. I had several good friends at that point. Some even still go to my school but aren't my friends anymore. Of course, many of my friends at that age were girls, and a few years later the gender separation starts. I must have started being a bit more isolated around the third grade or so.

Same here. I liked reading and playing alone before school, but nevertheless I quickly got friends in "0"-grade and was quite extroverted. I think that changed when I was about 8. I still was quite social at school but I got more and more introverted... I like to think myself as "slow-witted" in social situations.

Before I began school, I was social and outgoing. Throughout my school years, I was something of an introvert, although I did have some friends. Today, I have a lot of friends on a Siamese cat site I frequent.

On the first day of kindergarten, during recess, I remember going off alone. I amused myself by walking steadily on the wooden borders surrounding the playground. When we were asked to choose partners, most kids wanted to work with me (for some reason!)... I eventually had one friend. As I got older, it was harder to keep friends and to play during recess. By the end of grade school, I had one or two really good friends, who were my neighbors. I never really liked recess or choosing partners.

At the age of 6 I had no friends in school, but two of neighbors were in the same class as me and we were sorta friends outside of school because they lived right across the street.

I grew up in a mostly Hispanic neighborhood, and the presence of language and cultural differences made my social differences not seem so obvious...or they were just generally generous and accepting people...in fact the more "Americanized" they were, the more prone they were to pick on me.

Age 6 was the year that things really started to go downhill. I was severely bullied by my teacher, and while I had been singled out and bullied and isolated by a teacher before, this was the first year that other kids were in on it.

Outside of school I was socially gregarious. I did have friends...but I didn't understand boundaries and whatnot. I had a strong tendency to make parents angry.

Kindergarten was socially traumatic for me. I had no friends. Recess was the worst time of the day for me and I spent it crying.

I had one or two friends at age 6, and that's pretty much the way it is today. I only have a couple of close friends, and everyone else is just an acquaintance. I am probably on the same level socially, in that I WANT friends but suck at making them. One of my friends is only my friend because his wife and my wife have been friends for years. But now he's in Iraq, so my wife and I really don't have anyone to hang out with. Though honestly, that doesn't REALLY bother me.

I was very bad at keeping friends. I liked to play but I didn't know how to reciprocate and etc.

THen at 13 it all went to sh*t. I was non-verbal most of the time, sat in back like the girl in Breakfast Club- the weird one- and people jkust thought I was ret*d.

Oned a I wrote a letter to the teacher and asked that the class be 45 minutes instead of an hour. I wrote it so beautifully and respectfully and used wrods far above my grade level. SHe was floored. She wanted to know who it was. It was strong yet respectful.

She went around the room, asking first the "smart kids."

Brian, did you write this letter? No, ma'am.

Caren? Did you write it?

No I did not.

"We are not going to have class until I knoew who wriote this lettter!"
SHe went through the whole class, even the one who were thought to be special ed. SHE DID NOT ASK ME! She assumed I was too stupid, too messed up.

THen I began to talk in public like arpounf 24. And it has been downhill ever since. Bad maraige, etc.........life was better non-verbal.