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14 Feb 2009, 4:53 pm

This is a heart-wrenching thread for me. My heart goes out to each and every one of you with your stories.

I won't share my story because it's too painful for me and too depressing for others to read.

Merle, I could say many things to you, but I'll just send you a tight, tight knowing hug through the ether, from your sister Greentea.

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14 Feb 2009, 5:43 pm

Emor wrote:

FlamingYouth wrote:

gina-ghettoprincess wrote:

Emor wrote:

gina-ghettoprincess wrote:

I'm 13, I don't have that option unfortunately. But when I grow up I am so moving to Italy to escape my mother. I'll stay in touch with my dad, though.

I probably would have left if I was 18 or above when my parents basically said I couldn't be Atheist. I can't because I too am 13, and I'm going to be doing my confirmation next month or something. I can't really do anything about it, and my parents think I'm Christian now(I told them that 33% of the world's population was Catholic, and then they said, 'And you're one of them!', I wasn't in the mood to go through everything I did on the day I told them I was Atheist, so I just go a long with it).
I probably will leave them when I am 18 if they still don't accept I'm Atheist, or will definitely leave if I tried telling them before I was 18 that I was Atheist and they went crazy again. I might not even give them a chance, they're forcing me too do confirmation. The whole point of it is to do it willingly. I really do hate them right now for forcing me to do it.
EMZ.

I'm sorry to hear that, that must really suck. But even if you can't get out of confirmation, they can't get inside your head and MAKE you believe in it, can they?

That's absolutely right! Religion is a personal choice. Emor, I would recommend just going along with what your parents want until you're 18 because, while it definitely sucks, that's unfortunately all you can do. But yeah, definitely leave your parents' home and never come back if you're 18 and they still don't accept you're atheism.

I intend to

. It's not like they hate Atheists, my tutor(family friend) was Atheist, and they never had a problem with them.
They've got stuck into their head that letting me be Atheist wouldn't be ethical and bad parenting, or at least, that's what I think.
I've considered being too Catholic, to the extent I'd have a problem with everything they do, but I don't know if that'd work, and it'd also mean extensive studies of Catholicism. I might try though, but I don't know if they'd give in. I doubt they'd actually convert to Atheism.
EMZ=].

Yeah, going "too Catholic" will only make you even more miserable, because you'll end up spending a lot of time trying to study up on a religion you're not passionate for. Probably the best thing to do is just be Catholic to the point you make your parents happy. Just say to other people that you're Catholic whenever your parents are around, and, if your parents expect you to go to church every Sunday, or say grace at dinner, or whatever they expect you to do, just do it. But, when your parents are not around and you're by yourself or with a group of good friends, you can just be yourself and do what you want.

Man, I've been in college for a few years and I forgot how much it sucks to have to listen to your parents.

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15 Feb 2009, 10:47 am

KevinLA wrote:

Or do you know someone that is?

Have you comepletely broken off contact with them?

If so, why?

I don't think it is common to do this, but I know it is not rare.

Okay, Kevin. There are reason you started this post, so what's your story?

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15 Feb 2009, 11:03 am

spykolotics forced me to be in kids hospital when i was 10 because they thougth i had depression holidays allowed only every 2 week-ends and how holding my arms behind my back and sitting in top of me would help my depression if i welt upset? :evil: i would puch them if i ever get chance

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15 Feb 2009, 11:56 am

As of right now, i am new to this message board..never found out about it until today actually. But to start off, My mother and I don't really have a close relationship. I am a middle child, but my mother seems to try to be my older sisters best friend and spends most of her free time with her, or with her child. Its not that i don't mind that, but it would be nice if she spent more time with me once in a while. My younger brother is in Israel now for a year, so i haven't seen him in a while.

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15 Feb 2009, 12:19 pm

ocelot1962 wrote:

KevinLA wrote:

Or do you know someone that is?

Have you comepletely broken off contact with them?

If so, why?

I don't think it is common to do this, but I know it is not rare.

Okay, Kevin. There are reason you started this post, so what's your story?

KevinLAgged off topic

Me thinks he has tired of this thread, and is estranged from it.

And what about me? Mine is similar to most others here. Both my parents (now deceased) had quirks, and I believe I got traits from both. I simply drifted away from them, my siblings and their nonsense.

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15 Feb 2009, 12:41 pm

I am not estranged from my parents. I see them on schedule every week. We go out for lunch and shopping. They are incredibly supportive of everything i do.
They help me out with stuff...buy me the various supplements i take...etc...
I am like their 33 year old permenantly teenaged daughter.
My mom has strong AS traits, similar to mine...and my dad has a lot of Spectrumy stuff that runs in his family, and while he has his quirks he is very good at being socially flexible and reading people because he is a salesman and that is his job...but some of his obsessions are kinda ASish..

I am completely estranged from my younger NT sister. She wouldn't even be my friend on Facebook.

A long time ago, when I was somewhat less mentally stable, I went through brief periods of estrangement with my parents. I would get triggered into a pretty serious meltdown whenever they would come see me where I lived....but I was ok with seeing them outside of where I lived.

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15 Feb 2009, 7:31 pm

I am not estranged from my parents, I live with them, out of necessity. They view me as a normal person with a lot of confidence and self esteem problems. But I know people like this and that is not me.

I dont think they would ever accept the idea of AS, in either me or my father. Actually I think my father would be mortified at the idea that he might have AS.

They want me to be a properly rounded NT and wont give up on the idea I will be one day. But I am beginning to realise that is never going to happen.

So our family relationship continues, with the giant pink AS elephant standing in the room, and nobody willing to see it.

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