Being treated like a child

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I hae being treated like a child, however, when I do need someone to hold my hand, and help me get something done, I don't want them to not help me... I may be an adult physically, but I still need the lady at the Student Accounts office to guide me through filling out the form, because no, its not that simple to me, and if you think its simple, your special because you see something I can't... That lady at student awards got sarcastic with me, and thought I was messing with her, and.... ugh...... When I need help unbderstanding something, I need help... Sio give me help...

On the other side, don't constantly hold my hand either... I don't want to be babied, I just want help when I need it... I don't want my parents explaining something to me that makes perfect sense, I don't want to be walked through how to clean a kitchen (I know how to clean it, executive function just holds me back and makes it take a really long time)... I know how to use a toaster, even though I have never used this model, please don't tell me to read the instruction manual and then put it in front of me...

I don't want that, I just want minor assistance when I need it. I was like that to the point that I refused to get help with AS because I thought I didn't need it, and just pushed away everyone who tried to help me... I wish I hadn't though... Now I am recognizing when I need help, and trying to get it. Don'tforce help onto me htough, as I take offence to that very easily.

I get treated like a child by some of my teachers. For instance,

"Now, show your parents where you sit (pointing to my desk)"

But mostly I think they react this way because I'm extrememly shy. They don't mean it rudely or anything. They just don't want to scare me. And honestly, they can't get a feel for my personality and intelligence by just looking at me. But now they all see that I am not dumb (honors classes, etc) and they begin to talk to me as a mature person.

it will be hard,but with time-show them exactly what are capable of,it will show to them eventually,it's just ignorance.

am don't get the same sort of treatment off parents,only when drunk-mum starts to say funny things to sister [who is an undiagnosed aspie] like she should come and see am a lot more because am an 'invalid',and she should know better 'being a pyschologist' [she thinks sister is a pyschologist just because she did a pysch degree].


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didnt know vets did call out visits,wish own cat could have had that before she died as going to the vet was hell for her.

My family is like this:

My mother still takes care of me despite me living on my own.
My father always yells at me when somthing I do seems odd.
My younger brother treats me like im his younger brother.
My younger sister says "o.... k...." like im stupid.

Im sick of it!! >_<

I've caught myself in this situation with my son sooooo many times. He's lucky though, I catch myself and fully admit that I was wrong. We usually mean the best, even when it does come out worng. I like when Trent calls me on it. I learn a lot from him every day. Best wishes

Oh but she doesn't. She just laughs and thinks I'm in the wrong. I did call her on it, but still she didn't admit she was wrong.
This is only a recent thing, like in the last couple of days.

I know that feeling, fortunatly, I don't have to deal with the being treated as being immature. Most of the times my parents treat me as an NT when I should be treated differently. I need their help for things that they would not think I need help with, and thus they don't think to offer... Worse than that, I am often too stubborn to ask for help.

Not all vets. Some do, some don't, the ones who do generally charge more (makes sense since they're paying for gas and have to take time to come over). My vet doesn't; so my poor cat has to suffer the trip there and back. She's always too nervous to eat for at least a day afterward, poor thing. I've heard you can buy sedatives for cats for car trips, something like Valium only in a cat-sized dose, so they won't be too scared; but I forgot to ask my vet about that when I was there last time. I'm going to have to ask next time; I hate that she's so frightened of being in an unfamiliar place, and that I can't speak her language well enough to tell her she's safe.

It was a company called Vets to You. Cost about $60, cost more to have my cat put down. She had cancer.

They charge more for lost time between appointments, nothing else. They can do what is called writing off the gas as a business expense, which means they don't count that money they spent on gas as money they earned, and the government treats that as money that they never had as income when it comes to taxes. So they do get a lot of it back.

You can use Bach Flower remedies. About 4 drops in their water bowl. Recently, there was some construction work being done on the outside of our house. My cat was freaked out, and kept prowling and peering suspiciously for a whole day and night. She just couldn't settle down in any of her fave spots and sleep, either. I put a few drops in her water (try Rescue Remedy) and she eventually was back to normal. Of course she let the smell evaporate first, before she would drink it.

aspies need to share and get advice from their parents. the fact that our parents talk to us like a child, and that we cannot tell them that we have Asperger's really puts us in a bad situation. in fact, i wish i could to my parents - or someone - openly about my aspergers - get advice - get someone else's opinion. for example in 5th grade i thought that one of my classmates was gay. that was not something i felt comfortable asking my parents. another example, i used to get into fights in middle school - but when i got home with a little bloody/reddish spot on my eye - i would have to lie to my mom that one of the kids hit me with a basketball accidentally. or if right now as an adult i told my grandmother/mother/aunt that i have aspergers - they would say "no you do not" or "how will you get married?.. but if you just kept trying i am sure you could find good friends and a good wife. you are just not trying. you should take dancing lessons and learn how to dance."

to sum up it all up, my parents would 1) be hurt by me admitting my AS (cuz they feel like they need to hide it from me even though i am adult) 2) never accept my AS 3) blame me for it