Letter to Inform People of AS

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I agree. It made me laugh really hard.

I rarely have an anxiety episode and I keep it under control when I have one because I don't get all rude and cut in line and stuff and scream at the people because I know it can make the situation worse because then they can refuse to help me because they wouldn't want to deal with a "rude customer" and I am also aware anxiety and AS is no excuse to be rude and cut in line, etc. I try to avoid anything that would cause me stress inside that would lead to anxiety. Sometimes I can't avoid things that would cause stress so I had a lot of it in school and rude behavior because you can't refuse to do your school work or else I flunk my classes and that means repeat a a class, no London if I can't graduate. Also, how could I avoid my meltdowns from stress if my bf doesn't leave me alone when I tell him too? He just makes it worse by adding fuel to the fire by not leaving me alone when I tell him too so what do I have to do, scream at him and telling him to "shut up."

I even refuse to have a AS card or an anxiety card because I feel I'd be using it as an excuse for my behavior acting like "Oh it's okay for me to act this way because I have X."

Considering how people are stigmatized, I don't think I would advertise. Even if you tell them they still hold you responsible for your behaviour, except in the case of mental illnesses like schizophrenia, but even that has become less common.

I've considered a MedicAlert bracelet, but there's an annual fee, and I don't know how useful the people on the other end of the phone line would be if I needed their help explaining.

I think a card you can pull out in an emergency would be better than a letter ahead of time, unless it's for a specific issue at a specific place, where you want to discuss certain details ahead of time like dietary issues or sensory issues. It saves you from the possiblity of stigma, since some people will hold any difference against you, unfortunately.

It pisses me off when aspies do try to use it as a defense. Lawyers do it to make money because it's part of their job. Their job is to defend the defendant and when they hear he or she has AS they convince the defendant to use their AS in court. I think the aspie is just as guilty for going along with it. I mean everyone wants to get off. No one wants to go to jail but I mean why be stupid by doing crime? They didn't think they get caught is what.

Well, I bought a WrongPlanet golf shirt and I often wear it places now. Of course, most of the people I come in contact with don't know what WrongPlanet is. They probably think I am into UFO research or something.

So I wear it to choir practice, and I'm sitting at the organ, and like usual everyone thumps me on the back/shoulder and say "Hey, how u doin?"

I want a shirt that says "Hands off."

That would be rude---sorry.

I am about to buy a shirt from cafe express that says something to the extent that I am autistic.

Anyway, I think the idea from whitetiger here is a good one. I would carry one in my billfold. A trip on a train was brought up by xalepax and how a first class seat was given instead of having to sit by people. I don't like the crowded conditions on trains. We have to go to Chicago this summer, and my wife reserved a private sleeping room for us on the AmTrak---mainly because of my AS.

In some way it sounds good, put in practice I think it'll be a disaster. When people read that, they start to read online about autism and AS, which results in many prejudgmental rubbish, people create an incorrect image of you in their minds, they assume you have all the AS traits. You will get people ask many, many (nasty) questions. They will talk about it, and create an image of you being some insane psycho getting a meltdown after seeing a strawberry or anything. Rubbish goes fast, you know. If I were you, I wouldn't do it.

I say you should not do such a thing, but perhaps it's easier foor me since I never have any meltdowns, or really too weird social situations. Not any more, I've learned to pretend to be normal, I just do whatever the others do. Not that I like it; I can only do it for some period of time.