Wasted potentials

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I know that my 'in your face' approach scres the hell out of many of you.

But i don't care.

what i have found here on this site are many 'diamonds in the rough.'



it would be easier for me to just say a screw it. Let these people be quitters.

But i cannot. My conscience won't allow for that. There are far too many capable people here who wallow in their own self pity, and denial. YES, denial of what you may achieve if you were to not limit yourselves by the standards placed on you by others (the liars).

i will continue to be relentless on my position that there are many, many, special people here. And i will hound you to move your life forward, until somebody does, then another, and yet another.

i didn't find this site by accident. i was led here by my innerself, screaming at me. He was telling me that there is an answer out there and i believe the answer is somewhere here.

Could it be you, or you, or you ,or you, or you.

How will we ever know, if any of you don't pick yourself up by the bootstrap, and overcome your issues. Stand tall. Be Counted. Be what you were designed for.

And how selfish of you for not trying. It could be you, who makes a difference for all of us. And i do not mean AS folk. I mean all regular people throughout the world, who have been beaten down and left their spirits crushed. Every body owes it to every other living being to stand and fight against the machine of lies.



Rant complete.

for now, but mark my words, you may have given up on your dreams but i have not given up for you. i believe in you.

It really depends on what people want to do. People have the right to waste there lifes moaning about how much there life sucks if they want to. And we can't change there mind. Some people are to lazy yes.
But really whats the real crime in being lazy if thats what they feel comfortable doing? What I don't like is people always talking negative about Aspergers thats some thing that really gets to me. Yes you are aspergers No you are not disabled. Just a differen't point of view. With differen't strengths and weakness to NTs. Every one on the planet has differen't strengths and weaknesses. People with aspergers are not Mentally limited and can do great with things we are interest in.

But if people don't want to do some thing SB2 no matter how much you try and tell them your view on things they are not going to change and they don't have to change. Not every one has the same motivations in life as you. Or though it seems your intentions are good.

I have tried to help people to achieve their full potential. It is the sweetest drink i have ever taste when i can convince someone that they are capable of more than they are achieving so far(and if they really are capable. God knows how horrible it would be for me or any person to convince another they can be a rockstar or something and later have that dream smashed to pieces). Virtually everyone i meet is capable of achieving more in their lives to make them happy, and almost everyone lacks the confidence and conviction to move towards achieving more. I chock it up to the generally hostile world that teaches you you're a loser(in at least 1 respect or another.) Because all you really need to do to change around peoples attitude is be the voice in the storm telling them they CAN achieve more.

But telling people they can, and being supportive is all you can do. If they are determined to be unhappy there aint s**t you can do. Perhaps in that case the only thing you can do is be their only vent in a world that is a hell of their own making. In some cases people will force improvement on another, but i think that is somewhat not their right.

Imagine someone is schizophrenic, if they are deemed potentially violent, they will be hospitalized and made to take anti-psychotics. Perhaps they wanted to live in their fantasy world. But by forcing pills down their throat, you are in a sense raping them. I'm sure most of them are glad you did afterwards, but it bothers me how truely that is rape.

There are times when people will inflict interventions on people. Perhaps they'll be happier later, but i would have a lot of trouble doing an intervention myself, it feels to much like rape.

Yeah it sucks im sick of people always telling Aspergers what they can't do all the time. And then I start seeing alot of Aspies that start believing it. Grrrrrrr. These people piss me off so much. Focusing on things they think they can't do which they probably can do and not ever thinking about what they are good at and can do.

Aspergers has differen't strengths and weaknesses to NTs. But the strengths are there and are some thing special. Sure the weaknesses suck but get over it aspergers people quite often aren't stupid infact are very intellegent.

Perhaps i misunderstand the intended points made prior.

Perhaps my points were misunderstood.

Let me reiterate;

There is no rape in encouraging someone with words of belief. As the world bestes you with their lies and hold you down with their subterfuge and gimmicks just Like my belief in the individual and the strengths that each person has nobody should be controlled by outside forces. We were given free thought and we have everyright to excercise that for our own self interrest.

Can someone be happy, by doing nothing with their potential. Perhaps.
I beg to differ. There is an inner spirit in all of us. Which i believes dictates to us the truth, about who we truly are. it also makes us feel, in certain ways. if we fight that spirit and suppress that spirit ( for the simple sake of living our lives as another has dictated to us) then we are in connstant battle with ourselves.
Depression.

My message is simple.

Do not believe what you have been told (even by me). Take it all as simple food for thought. Take one thing serious. Yourself. Nobody has the right to tell you who you are. Likely they don't even know themselves.

take yourself serious to the point that you at the very least begin a search for truth in your own lives, and who you are.
The diagnosis, the reiffying labels, and the limiting put downs, are nothing more than food for thought. Analyze them. Consider for yourself, what you are willing to accept, and what you find to be utter BS. Discard that.

You cannot be controlled by others, or their abusive tactics, unless you allow that to happen.
The choice is yours.




If that is the way you choose to live your life after you have made the effort to define yourself (by yourself, and not from others influence) then so be it. You are who you are and there is a place for you in this world as such. Not every person can aspire to greatness. And each person has the place where they fit.

One thing i teach my Daughters.

Suppose my last name is Smith.

When one of them says to me i cant do it.

My reply is " What does a Smith always say/"

their reply is, "i can"

then i encourage them to think it through.
They are 6 & 8 so sometimes i need to give them hints.

But if i am sure they can (given their limitations by age), i watch them succeed.

And the look of satisfaction on their faces. And the lesson in life that they learn. They will never be limited by another, so long as they believe that a Smith Can.


Let me go find Scoots signature it speaks to the heart of the matter.

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I was just sharing a understanding i recently came to. I know words of encouragement aren't rape. I just thought that idea i had was slightly relevant so i mentioned here. Sorry if i didnt make myself clear.

When i was suffering from sleep dep, i thought up the idea for a character in a book who forces people to improve. In one way or another. Kidnapping, manipulation, surgery, mutilation. Whatever he needs to do to cause a person to actualize and fulfill their potential but essentially become happy, he forces on people. And he reflects on what he does as rape.

All of my characters in my stories are like, totally happy and at peace with themselves and this character is no exception. He understands what he is doing as rape, and understands it totally when people come after him trying to arrest or kill him. And if he does die, he wont blame his killers or say anything stupid like, "You narrow minded fools!"

The thing is because he mostly targets adults, their personalities and likes and dislikes are pretty well founded, and people do exist which are essentially repressed serial killers, that is simply their personality, and experiances and they are too set in stone to alter much. Well he is only interested in causing people to be happy, and realize their potential. Not make them good people. So he'd find repressed serial killers living in hell, and try to convince them that they need to be themselves and s**t. And he doesn't seem to have much of a preference between making people into happy good people like doctors and teachers and workers, and making people happy violent criminals, and a**holes. And he is good at what he does.

I'm not trying to show disrespect to your parenting techniques or anything, i'm just curious, but don't you worry a little bit that putting that sentiment into a phrase like that will cause them to think it tedious and lose its meaning, ect. And do you think you are putting any pressure on your daughter that she may not be allowed to "not be able to do" something? Or do you figure you are sensative enough to pick up when she really IS having serious trouble with something, and will provide help when appropriate?

Sounds like an interresting story. And there is a definate moral to it.

Does your character only potentialize psychotic behaviours or does he potentialize anybody, without bias.

i am a firm believer that, the unbiased approach would work. I believe that what your character is doing is unleashing absolute freedom upon his subjects. The effects of Absolute freedom has been demonstrated here in america to some degree.; While we have a history of innovation and some of the greatest achievements known to man. We also have fame for some of the greatest serial killers and Anti social behaviours.
The soil of freedom produces the extremes of whatever is planted in it. I tend to believe though that ultimately, the cream will rise to the top.
But you must accept the worst to also achieve the best, that freedom has to give.

Totally without bias. I'm not sure how he picks his targets yet. He may just meet them in passing. Probably he tries to go for the worser, but not impossible cases.

And the people who are looking for him are gonna be so perplexed by it because they'll get reports of him "making serial killers" but perhaps many many more people who get "raped" do indeed go on to become happy and productive people.

I think i came off sounding like a drill SGT.

that is not t6he way i approach things.

First i would like to point out, that i believe that most parents know their children pretty well.

That being said i would say yes, i am sensitive to their limitations. I am always right there with them to kneel down and hive them a huge squeeze and share the joy they feel in accomplishment.

Its the same theory as a parent teaching their kids to walk. They lean them up against a, say, couch, then they move three steps away and hold out their arms. And are ready to catch them.

Same as learning to ride a bike. You show them the brakes. You show them the lean toput your foot down, so as not to fall. You show them the premise of the handle batrs and a slight lean for balance, and you instruct them that they must keep peddling. Then you hold the seat, for balamce, have them pedal as you run behind them.
Eventually you have to let go, and let them do it for themselves.

mkay, i understand ^_^.

AHHHHH to much stuff to read.

Um. That charcter in your storey Nomaken is a nutta. Honestly how would that guy justify trying to make every one happy while at the same time encouraging repressed serial killers to kill. Which in turn would not make the people who get killed very happy and would also have the effect of making the family of the victoms very unhappy as well.

Im not sure about the stuff about people reaching there potentals you really have to think about what there realistic potental is and not what they could at absolute best could do. Because alot of people don't have the motivation or the encourage ment or enviroments to reach there full potental but alot also never take advantage of what thet could realisticly achieve. Like the aspies with lots of knowledge and interlect but waste it talking on Internet forums or learn heaps of stuff that will never be of any use to them because they don't have a job related to it or a proper studying position.

What I am interest in though is putting more things in place and changing the attude that seems to be around about people with aspergers. Make it more positive. I also would like to see more asperger groups for young adults and late teens in towns and also more groups for older people too. I think that they mite help some people who are socially not adept get some real friends and also help some people gain confidence. Which inturn these things should help to improve the happyness of AS individuals.

Death isn't the most horrible thing that can happen to you. If you ever know a stubborn prideful person you will find that death actually takes the back seat quite often. I don't know exactly how he selects his targets yet. But he probably picks people who he believes are most capable of becoming the happiest people people are generally capable of becoming. He also may pick people who he believes are capable of great potential. He isn't doing it because he is a nice guy, or trying to be nice. He a raper. He is forcibly controlling the destiny of people. So the fact that the people who he changes to become serial killers become serial killers and kill a bunch of people he doesn't care. Or rather, he understood that is what he was doing in the first place. He is raping people to unleash their maximum potential and happiness. It may make some people happy but it is still an act of rape.

you want to help you, more.

and this quote a seperate issue

people could NOT be wasting time. Maybe they are trying to find sense. Maybe they are trying to find a sense of community, somewhere to finally belong.
I wouldn't call those things a waste of time. Mater of fact that is what i encourage when i incite people to find themselves.


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I dont have to think about anything, not for others. Thats their job to decide for themselves. i will guarantee you that there are more people out there who are ashamed of the fact that they have not lived up to their potential. And tired of making excuses like "oh its society"
I am here to tell them that that is not a convenient excuse that i am going to buy into. People are tired of living in fear by the standards that their 'disability' is limiting.
The answer is NO. You are limiting yourself. If your potential is sitting on your ass then so be it, i don't judge them. they need to judge themselves.


For instance, YOU (mind of Ordered Chaos).
You potential may be in starting thoughful and provacative threads. I know they get my passions going. And that is one part of the unit doing their job. What they are best at. Hand off the baton to someone who can take it from there. Is my potential that of a kick in the pants. I don't know. But i know one thing, i refuse to accept excuses which are convenient.