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marshall
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04 Apr 2009, 7:58 pm

I like a genuine happy vibe in groups as long as I'm feeling like part of it. But when I'm depressed or feeling isolated happiness irritates me and makes me envious. Yea, I'm selfish so shoot me. :P

I do love it when people are happy while doing some activity with me, or perhaps even just talking with me. I also love to share my interests and see genuine excitement and happiness in others over the stuff I love. Having shared interests is one thing that can really bring my mood up around people.



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05 Apr 2009, 10:56 am

Normally, yes, I feel left out when others seem happy.



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05 Apr 2009, 11:40 am

whitetiger wrote:
I'd love to say I'm always happy for them, because that is the "right" thing to want. I don't always feel that way though. Often, I feel jealous and rotten. Still, I'm glad to see others succeed and to find inspiration where there is some. Often, I'm genuinely happy to see the happiness and success of others. It just depends on my mood.


Same here. The right thing to do is being happy for them, but sometimes I don't feel it that way. It depends on what is making them happy and how my mood is. And yeah, I can be selfish also and sometimes I can feel mad and depressed knowing that something is making someone happy knowing that my Asperger's is making it hard for me to achieve that something or that level of happiness.



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05 Apr 2009, 11:49 am

Eh. It depends on multiple factors for me:
Who the person/people is/are.
What I'm feeling at the time.
What is making the person/people happy.

In general: if my friends are happy, I'm alright if not happy myself.
Anyone else, like I said, it depends on the factors.


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