Want to be friends with autistic female, she has no empathy.

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Ok, so I've been thinking a lot about what people have said, all day long. I realized I feel sorry for myself a lot, which contributes to depression. I also just want a more vibrant life, with friends, money and things to do. I can't pin all my hopes on one friend, one who is probably capable of empathy sometimes, but not when she's in a manic mood. I'm still contemplating.

I think maybe she was just stuck in her own head at the moment. That doesn't mean she's incapable of having empathy. I think it was just bad timing.

It's that emotional inertia phenomena that there's now a thread on in this very forum. A lot of us can't quickly adjust our emotions to fit the circumstances. I know that when my mind is really active and excited I have trouble getting in the mood to be empathetic.

I guess you figure out what each of your friends strong points are and go to each one based on what they are. Can someone who is autistic be just like an NT? If they were, wouldn't they be an NT? I guess some with autism are better at figuring out what it is others need. I don't know why your friend wrote about her social life in response to your email. My guess from what you posted is she was relating her life to yours. She didn't mean to sound like she was bragging, I'm sure. It might have appeared awkward. It sounded like she was relating her situation with yours. She was saying she has managed to make friends and it's easier when manic, maybe because she's less inhibited and more animated, has more energy and drive. Is peppier. Some people like peppiness.

Well, she just emailed me again, this time with empathy. It gave me a chance to go more into detail about what I'm dealing with. It's a beautiful day and I have had no place to go and no one to do it with, since BF and I are taking some space from each other. Sucks. Plus, I'm off cigarettes and it's making me feel grumpy. I just keep taking klonopin to help me sleep through the withdrawal.

Thanks for all your perspectives. You all added a lot and it looks like a lot of you were right.

I hope you find the happiness you are looking for.

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White Tiger does too

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Thank you SO much!

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I'm glad it looks better with your friend now. Maybe it just took some time for her to process what you previously said and realise that you were hurting and it might need a response. Whatever the reason, I hope you can stay in touch.