AS and parenting

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Ya know.... my mom is probably the "source" of the AS stuff on my side of the family. She had A LOT of the traits. We had over 200 canaries living in the back room of our house and she used to sit and write about what they did all day long! When she wasn't doing that, she was usually sewing, gardening or painting. There were a lot more AS things about her, but I won't go into that now..... My point is this....

My mom didn't play with me, either! Despite this, I enjoyed myself! I wanted to be alone most of the time, too - so it worked out just fine! She was there when I needed her and she was off doing something else when I didn't. In my adult life she was actually my best friend.

Don't beat yourself up if you don't "play" like other parents. If your kids are on the spectrum.... they probably don't really miss it anyhow!

I think my partner would describe me as an inflexible parents in the sense that it's difficult for me to accept his parenting style when it differs from mine, especially regarding our autistic son. It's very hard for me to imagine that his style would work as well as mine, although in theory I know that it may very well be as effective. So we fight sometimes because I can't stop myself from telling him what he's doing wrong.

I'm flexible towards the kids in individual situations though, if they change their minds about plans etc.....