Is 28 years old too old to be a bully?

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I think it has to do with maturity - one important aspect of maturity is to be able to control narcissism and other strong feelings. A person how can't control himself and be the master in his own head is not matured person - but I must say it is not dependent on age.

Not a show a bullish behaviour has nothing to do with empathy or the other person at all - it has to do with myself. I act reasonable and morally because of myself, to maintain being a reasonable and moral person. The other person, its feelings and doing do not have here any importance. Not to bully has something to do with me and no one else.

No one is too old to be a bully, as bullying is a behaviour, not an age. Each person has control over their own behaviour regardless of age (with the exception of people with brain degenerating disorders such as Dementia as they can use bullying behaviour but be unaware of it).

In my opinion, zero is an age too old to be a bully.

Sadly, it's not too old. I've heard of adults who bully adults. It may not be nice, but it happens.

Actually, I have Asperger's and I get bullied severely by a man who is 33 who has autism and mild mental retardation. He is much worse than the kids who bullied me in high school(who happened to not really have disabilities, but had bad grades and were jealous of me because I was the teacher's pet). He would tease and mock me to get me upset, just to get me in trouble with the staff. When I would talk to staff, just having a regular conversation, he does not like that I am the center of the attention, so he "pretends" to say he is stressed because of my voice(I have a soft, monotone voice that is not even loud, compared to his squeaky, loud ass voice) and than I would tell him that it hurt my feelings and than he would stick out his tongue and tell me that he will "hurt" me. Than I would ask staff to get him to stop, than he would say "I can't help it", and the staff would all of the sudden yell at me because I got him mad. Then they would "baby" him and then he would stick out his tongue and say "Your my staff and you should give me attention and not her because she does not deserve it". Then I cry and then the staff yell at me for being insensitive and selfish because I am upset and jealous that this a**hole needs them and I don't. I tell them I am not upset about that, I am upset that the staff allowed him to be rude to me. At the same time, I was forced to go out of my way to give this bully and to be flexible to his needs. I had to sit at his doctors appointments, even though I can not handle them and staff had to force me to go out of my way, so that his needs were met. The sad thing is that if he did this to someone who is "lower" functioning, he would get into trouble and get yelled at. He also lives on the other side of my group home(I live in a duplex, where I have my own side and he lives on the other side with another man with Autism). His bedroom is opposite of my bathroom and every time I am in there ,he would bang on the walls and then come out and tell his staff that I was banging. It got so bad that I would not use my bathroom and just go in a trash can in my bedroom and/or on my floors. This bullying was still going on and if I go near him it still does. That is why I had to go to the State and report this and the agency had no choice but to make sure this bully was not near and/or around me, especially in the house. I just hope that bully gets put in an institution one day because he is so horrible and made my life a living hell for the past 7 years. He is so bad, I have and still am physically sick and have constant bad "memories" plaguing my head to a point where I just urinate on myself to get rid of them. This is the exact reason why I did not want to be in an agency sponsored home in the first place. Now because of him, I am afraid and/or do not want to be around people with autism and mental retardation and/or mentally ret*d people. I know it is crazy, but I am just afraid that I will encounter someone like this horrible man and get hurt again.He makes me ashamed even more about having my disability, even though mine is Asperger's, and I have no learning disabilities and/or mental retardation.
But at least with this wrong planet group, I know that you guys are all great people and because of all of you, I know that I can not be ashamed of my self, but also because we focus more about our talents and less of the disability itself, at least I can have some positive traits on it. I just wish the other people around can see me for my good traits and not the bad and/or take advantage of the good and bad traits.