Does it annoy you when others want to know about stuff?

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I am hypersensitive and so I fly off the handle when anyone tries to pry into the small details of my life. i also have very novel and often idiosyncratic ways and methods, and they do not fit "the norm" and so i become incensed because i feel as if questions about whether or not i have done something may have some hidden meaning i cannot grasp because of my ASD.

Usually any exchange with anyone is an intrusion for me. it feels like a physical intrusion - like i am a mollusc being prised from an inter-tidal rock. I can't explain it any other way - as if it is excruciating to contend with.

I hate it when people ask me things like 'did you remember to get your keys', I could seriously shout at these losers that they forget their keys or their handbag more often than me.

The other questions... I would be happy if people at least fake that amount of interest in me.

Yes, I get very easily annoyed by trivial questions, especially ones with obvious answers such as someone asking "Is it raining?" upon seeing you walk through door soaking wet or someone asking what you're doing when you're clearly reading a book.

Very annoying.

I hate it especially when people ask me questions when I'm driving. It throws my concentration all to hell.

Even when not driving, it takes a lot of effort to formulate a reply and like other people who have posted, I hate pointless questions and people talking for the sake of it.

Yes! I felt terrible the summer that I stayed with my grandmother, and she showed SO much interest that I started feeling panicky...I just wanted to get away from her! I'm used to living with people who don't really ask much about my day-to-day activities, so it really flipped me out.

Interestingly, though, I sure like to know what OTHER people did with their day...I guess because I feel like that is what I'm SUPPOSED to do.

I despise it. I used to lash out actually, if someone always asked me 'how are you?' or 'how has your day been?'. I have to bite my tongue, as really, I cannot usually think of much to say. The fact is, most expect an answer along the lines of 'Oh, Im good' or 'my day was great', and god help you if you actually speak the miserable truth of a bad day, or of feeling like crap.

Similarly, when my mother recently grilled me daily on how my flat move was going, and if I had done this and done that, I was often left fuming.
Yet, admittedly, without some prompts, I tend not to get round to doing anything I am meant to.

But yes, questions on generalities tend to bore me, and similarly, I never ask others how they are, what they have done with their day...it just seems so mundane.

I similarly find it irritating if someone asks me something and I have to explain not once, but over and over before they get it.

For me, it really depends on who's asking me. If my parents or teachers ask me detailed questions about what I've done, or what I'm going to do, I get really annoyed. But, for some reason, if my friends or my brothers ask, it doesn't bother me.

It depends what stuff it is they are asking about. These questions are normally not meant to be intrusive, far from it. But it IS awkward when people ask what I'm going to do or what I've done on a particular day. This is because more often than not, the plans involve Asperger's activities. It's awkward because so many questions lead to AS and I don't want to disclose to people I have AS.

If the "stuff" was about relationships and why I'm not in one, or haven't been in one, that's where I'd be annoyed.

It really depends.
I don't mind questions like "What did you do last weekend?" or "You said you wanted to go to that event, so, how did it go?". People who ask questions like that usually aren't trying to be intrusive, they're either genuinely interested (like when they wanted to go to that event themselves but didn't have the time) or just trying to make conversation. I don't mind either. Unless of course it's a really annoying person who's trying to control others and doesn't leave them any privacy.
I'd be seriously upset about questions like "have you got your keys?", because what's really expressed with that is NOT a question but the rather offensive statement "I know you're dumb so you need a reminder for everything". I'd feel insulted.
Too personal questions (like ones concerning my sex life) would upset me as well if it's not a VERY good friend who's asking.

I hate those questions, ever since.

They feel like I have to justify myself to others, for every little move I make... Really annoying!

Being unwilling to answer those kinds of nosy questions is the reason they call us "secretive".