21 May 2009, 4:33 am
uh, Spokane, those things happen to just about everyone. when people say 'that's life,' they mean that it is something that we all have to go through, and they can make us stronger or we can allow them to break us.
What is the alternative to getting used to it? wallow in self pity? nurse your injured pride and have everyone around you pander to your feelings? I'm afraid it dosent' work like that 
21 May 2009, 8:12 am
When someone says 'thats life' it is USUALLY because they don't care about the person that they are listening to. That is the thing (I thought) we are talking about here. The immense pain that a person on the death of a loved one should not be responded to with 'thats life', the other phrase mentioned earlier 'that's rough' is a lot more appropriate. It is accurate to say 'that's life' but it is dissmissive of the persons feelings. If a person is being bullied, usually they want advise on how to stop it, 'that's life' offers no help on how to stop the bullying, thus is a useless phrase in this instance as well. I could go on but I would then just be annoyed at the world and it would do me no good.
About using 'because the economy is bad', I found it very funny. 
lol
21 May 2009, 8:19 am
Same here. Life is just too short to keep up with people like that.
"That's life" is right up there with "That's just the way it is", which literally means: "Can't you just shut up and cooperate for once, you little freak?". How many times how I had that one thrown at me? I can hear my mother sigh in exasperation at my ineptness to comply, conform and accept things the way they are no matter how little sense it makes to me.
Sigh..
21 May 2009, 11:39 am
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22 May 2009, 3:16 pm
But I still wouldn't say those two words to anyone since I don't like them being said to me. Maybe to a**holes only since I don't care about them but not to anyone else. "I got beat up in school today by a bully"
"That's life, get used to it."
"I got arrested for something I didn't do."
"That's life, quit telling me about your false arrest."
"My grandfather died."
"That's life, everyone dies eventually of old age."
"I'm being cyber bullied."
"Shut up that's life, get used to it."
I hate it because it devalues what I am saying. I think some people use this as a way to remain a bit distanced from you, rather than engage in actual conversation.
It's just like when people claim that they don't care.
Example: "Joe, you left the faucet slightly on, it was dripping for hours", and his response to that is, "I don't care."
I take that as them claiming they don't care as a way to belittle something as if it's not really important, and because they don't care the wrong doesn't apply to them.
I get both, "That's life," and, "I don't care", a lot. I also use them myself, however I can elaborate with a person and STILL say, "but that's life", and I can accept my wrong when clearly I made a mistake.
Oh well, that's life.
(i didn't read all the posts so if this has done already, too bad, that's life!)
22 May 2009, 3:19 pm
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22 May 2009, 6:04 pm
"That's life." "It could be worse." "Life's not fair." "Get some perspective." UGH. I feel like I'm back in the headteacher's office now. All we need now is a healthy dose of "you don't have AS, you're completely normal," and let's not forget "because I said so". 
If everyone had to put up with the same problems that I do, they wouldn't be actively seeking socialisation, would they? But apparently the teachers don't follow this simple logic.
I hate school, and I can't wait to leave.
Luckily it's the half-term holidays now, so I get a week of no school.
23 May 2009, 1:33 am
