Being attractive really is hell...

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Rape is a terrible thing as is sexual abuse. I suffered sexual abuse in childhood from my family doctor and a woman never recovers from that.
One thing that I have learned in life is that I can distance myself from toxic environments. I left my home and country at the age of seventeen and never looked back.

I choose my friends according to purity of heart, nothing else. It's appaulling that hollowmoon was raped, or set up to be raped.
Beauty in itself has no value other than for the superficial dictates of the narcissistic, hedonistic society we live in. Beauty is not a testimony to personal achievements that are of value to society, of self-value, nor does it mean that you are potentially a better friend wife or mother because you meet the criteria of being considered beautiful.

I can though have an indication of a persons' moral compass, intellect, altruism, values by the people they group with, wish to be identified with, spend their time with. If you choose a "beautiful" nasty, jealous crowd of girls to clone to then you are choosing the wrong environment and are cooperating with the mistaken values that are dominating our culture.
In my experience beauty for women can be a handicap. Women who are less attractive often try harder to succeed, develop themselves more through having to fend for themselves. My beautiful women friends ( lovely inside and out) just had to blink and men would drop everything and cater to their every whim and fancy. They never had to struggle for anything.

Choose your environment carefully, choose "friends" who respect you and defend you as you would them, who care about doing good for society, otherwise life lacks the depth and meaning that mutual caring and nurturing add to our lives and our existence becomes like a senseless, narcissistic, superficial "look at me and my botox" reality show.

Hollowmoon

Can you change your social circle, career, your environment in general, it's what you have control over?

I mean as a person on the autism spectrum you will always be blindsided by certain social occurrences, that's not going to change, it's part of who you are.
Society in general needs much more time to adapt to invisible disabilities, so that's not changing soon either...

It looks to me like a goldfish swimming with sharks.

The moderator (or somebody else triggered) was triggered by a male making the comment (obviously no problem that a female (Teach51) said almost exactly the same thing).

Perhaps the problem was that cyberdad addressed his post directly to hollowmoon whereas I just talked about my personal experience and opinion in general? I don't know, I didn't read his post.