Are highly intellectual aspies different than other aspies?

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It's funny, UpFromAshes....but there is another person who "came from the ashes," just like you did.

Her name is "The Phoenix." She writes the opposite of you: very laconic and concise.

I bet you two would get along; you seem to share a similar philosophy of life.

She's a good person of good moral values.

She might be a bit more conservative than you, though.

Because you don’t know the details of what I keep offline. I denied it for years. Finally had a personal issue a few weeks ago I care to leave offline. Woke me up. Not as ok as I thought. Family doing better because I admitted it. Before it was obvious to them, not me and destroying us.

I don’t have a husband anymore. He committed suicide is the nice way to put it and because I lacked this knowledge of myself, humility to face my shortcomings, and need for help, I lacked what it took to help him. No it does not feel great to admit it.
Does failing your spouse qualify for you as a reason and motivation to dig in?

That is not all of what kicked me in the teeth recently all due to apsergers/autism. Rest not for posting. And way worse.
I have a friend with autism who walked this path of healing just a few yrs before me. Because their life changed after yrs of hell when they accepted who they were. And this is not about religion.

I am doing what they advised to heal. Not on here for you. I am better because over the years I had people and opportunities and a different story of myself. And if given a choice between being a fool and ridiculed over healing, I took the abuse. Never understanding. But it was not enough because I was not honest with myself about the root cause. One pointed out several times by people close to me that I denied.



Think about Hawkings.
Highly educated, wife, fame
How disabled could he possibly have been “if he was posting on a forum for progressive neurological deterioration?” That is what you are asking me.
You want to trade your life for his life? Now over.

You cannot hurt me. What can your words do that life did not do more? But I hope you never challenge another person on this forum like that. That is why I am speaking out. You do not want my life. You may want access to the resources that allow me to see life’s riches and live it to the most full I can despite things facing things you cannot imagine.

This forum is enormously painful to post on. My loss is very fresh. Every depressed post terrifies me they will end their life too and sends me to tears. I want to log off forever and not face this truth about me.

And keeping open is the assignment. I will not let others restrain or shame me or live by fear.



Peace. There are enough hurting souls trying to find healing without someone within the community judging who has Neurodiversity or not.
Ask next time before you judge.

^^ hey, upfromashes, I think she was talking about me, I replied above. I am sorry if you felt targeted. I am very, very sorry for your loss.

Thanks. It does mean a lot. These blogs/posts are hard for me to follow. But all for the good. No one has the right to question someone else’s journey. Something drove you here. Therefore you belong.

I know this forum as a welcoming, kind and generous place. Being here has helped me understand autism and shape how I support my autistic daughter. In any community there can sometimes be hurtful things said but it would take quite a lot for anything to change my overall view of the forum.

I am glad to see you here and I hope you get the support you need through hard times.

Elsa is cool and smart.

So is Up From Ashes.

I’m only cool under the air-conditioner

Not in my book, in my book you are cool every day! Thanks Kraftie - I appreciate your kind words!

I stopped by to say that I loved seeing how many others on here hate sitting in chairs "normally"! In order to be comfortable, I have to have my feet off the ground, usually by sitting on my knees. I don't mind feet dangling (I actually love the feeling of my feet dangling when I ride roller coasters with ski-lift style chairs), but I hate my feet on the ground for some reason. I do think it's a sensory thing. I can sit "normally" for a little while if I have to in order to "conform", but whenever I'm somewhere for a long period of time, I must sit on my knees or have my feet under my bottom.

I also wanted to say that dyscalculia isn't the only math learning disorder. There is also Nonverbal Learning Disorder (NVLD), which I have in addition to Asperger's. I struggle greatly with visual-spatial aspects due to NLVD, so math subjects like geometry and trigonometry were exceptionally hard for me. I am one of those scientists who doesn't need higher-level math (I understand algebra and basic statistics, and that's all I really need), but I always feel "inferior" as a scientist because of how I'll never be able to understand certain areas (mainly areas of physics).

Thanks
Surprised myself. For a bunch of supposed non empathic people due to autism, seems strange that the forum is filled with higher percentage of nice empathic people than in the general population.

And I am fortunate to have a network of people.

Do you live near Crater Lake or Klamath Falls?

Coos Bay is a fascinating name.

Okay so you are stumped even before you leave the land of arithmetic and before you enter algebra country.

But you do yearn to learn. And that's good. My mom was quite smart about art and humanties but was phobic about numbers, but got oddly turned on to math late in life. Partially by watching the cop drama "Numbers" oddly enough.


Long division is complicated. But we have calculators do it now -if you have to do it exact. But to avoid getting fooled and flim flamed you should be able to do some approximate long division in your head off the top of your head via rounding. Like "how many football fields long is a mile?". You live in the Mile High City so you know that a mile 5280 feet. A football field is 300 feet long. So that means if you take away ten of them, that leaves 2280, and since 21 is seven times three, then ya know that its gotta be about seven plus ten, or seventeen. Or..seventeen and a half.

Ok I messed up before uunderstanding what posts are directed at me. Those are Oregon cities, so I am answering. If not at me, sorry. I really have a hard time figuring out who is talking to who unless less do the quote thing.
This brain wiring is strange. Realizing my strategy in life. By not having sustained interactions with more than the few people who get and accept me, I stay hidden. Just talking to you all new people on line, issues like this are popping up I was unaware of. Appreciate you all. This forum is a great place to relax the brain and be free thanks to the acceptance.

If me, not near those but have visited the coast and Crater Lake. Both beautiful. Lots of Natural beauty here. Huge old super volcano. Temperate rain forest. Casade mountains with geologically recent active volcanos. Painted Hills. High Desert. Mount Hood area. Reservation with wild horses you can almost walk up to.

Never been to Klamath Falls or Coos Bay. Family visiting there soon as the Redwoods are near by but I could not get the time off.

And I sent pm to you about Whitman and dreams. The other thread is determined to save that relationship. And I don’t want to take attention away from that effort. She must have some other qualities making it worth the abuse. So sometimes only 1 way to learn. Have fun and find out the hard way. What is life for if not taking chances, messing up, and getting back up?

Sorry about that. My fault. Should have put in the ^^^^

I couldn’t answer your PM. You accidentally turned off the function enabling others to respond to your PM.

In High School I took all the math classes. Numbers fascinated me and were more logical than people.

In college I took a left turn during a class I took on a whim.
I use and remember very little of the math I took 4 decades ago.

A man with experience meets a rich intellectual.

The man with experience got money
And the intellectual got a lesson.

Ok I remember turning that on 3 times. Settings keep changing on me. I feel like I am being followed by am imaginary gremlin.

Will reset again.


Maybe it is not me. Just checked. Setting was ok. Clicked and reset. If still shows not accepting at your end, let me know. I will report it as a glitch

one of my relatives was born in Klamath Falls