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He wasn’t given a 1-year life expectancy.

He was warned if he didn’t clean up his act...that he might die within 1 year.

He retracted that statement, anyway.

...I,m not asking anyone to move, some helo - in addition to what I've been told, help with the storage and connecting with things, and tee improvement of computer knowledge - would be nice. Yes, a senior apartment could be nice, I don't know how I'd go getting it.

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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

...Basically, I've asked for help, but I've bever received it .
Help could be administered through a distance, through 'Web/phone.

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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

Im not saying he’s going to fully recover. I’m saying he’s not going to die within the year.

He should get his health stabilized. First priority.

Getting someone to transport him places would be a pipe dream.

I doubt it that HE'S even expecting this to happen.

I think this situation is a matter of ASS-P fearing the loss of his independence. That's what I feel.

It's difficult for a person to concede that they might need considerable care which might sacrifice full independence. I've noted this in my grandmother; she hated being in the nursing home. I've noted this in other people who could not stand the thought of not living in their own place.

Though, in this case, a nursing home is definitely not the only possible solution.

Hey, people - if all ASS-P has is a smartphone, and we don't know what kind (do we?) he may not be able to pull up this info as easily as we think. I have a smartphone and it is severely limited, so I was offline for all intents and purposes for almost two years post retirement, until I was able to afford cable wi-fi.

When I DID get cable wi-fi, I had to go to Geek Squad several times because I knew it would be useless for me to call tech support. I didn't know enough IT terminology to be able to work with someone over the phone! I had to see what they meant, in person. And I have a PhD - in a STEM field - and worked full time for more than 30 years.

Do we know how much his SSDI amounts to? How much his rent is? What his insurance costs and what it pays for? How much his prescription copay is? What he actually has left over after all that?

Maybe we do, I haven't read the entire thread. But what I see happening here disturbs me deeply. I've sampled here over the past week, and I see a ganging up, I see it snowballing, I see someone who is more disabled than the average person here being scapegoated. Why? Because the help we're suggesting won't work for him and he says as much? Because we're communicating at cross-purposes? Because he's terrified and can't see a way through?

So he is asking for help with a face and hands, in the same room? That can be just as much a form of reasonable accommodation as a keyboard for nonverbals, large font for visually disabled, the new Dyslexie font for dyslexics, a sign language interpreter for the deaf. Please, try to see it that way?

I know I haven't read the whole thread, but honestly, there has to be a better way to respond to him than this. Please guys. From what I'm seeing here, you're doing to one of your own (yes he is, like it or not) what you accuse the non-ASD world of doing to you, and you don't seem to be aware of that. Even if some of the helplessness he's displaying arises from emotional disabilities - how many people on this board have social anxiety or other mental/emotional obstacles keeping them housebound?

Please.

He gets his SSDI in weekly increments. I know about how much he gets----it's a little more than SSI. I believe part of the money goes to some payee or other. He, most assuredly, doesn't get that much.

If he had a smartphone, he would have to have a 4g phone for all intents and purposes. Otherwise, he would be totally dependent on Wi-Fi. Wi-Fi might be available in his rehab facility---but certainly not available in a shelter. It's available in Starbucks/McDonald's type of places, usually.

I'm not a fan of Tracfone---but he could get a decent phone for around $60 from Home Shopping Network. If it's on sale, he'd also get about 1500 or so phone minutes, texts, and 1.5 gigabytes Internet (which isn't much).

Not that I can help anyone much here (since I'm not from the US and not even from an English speaking country), but an old laptop should also be affordable. An old laptop won't have 3g/4g included, but can be extended via a 3g/4g laptop stick. Of course, to set this up, the OP would need help from someone.

@XFilesGeek: Then I guess there's an emotional component to this that really needs to be dealt with. Thanks for the background.