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05 Jan 2011, 7:10 am

This is the most relevant discussion I have had (been a part of) in a long time. You guys rule. I love you.

Rule #387.2 Never tell strangers you love them. :P



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05 Jan 2011, 7:29 am

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1. Dont expect anything from anyone.

2.Watch your back, their are killers and robbers out there.

3.Dont trust anyone, and dont tell people that you dont trust anyone.

4.Work out, get a good body with strength so you can protect yourself and not appear flimsy because then you look socially weak.

5.Speak with base in your voice, speaking quietly = a look of weakness, depression, inhibition, autism, sadness, fear, uncertainty.

6.While you are suffering- always strive towards a career goal, at all times or many hours of the day, so you may have financial freedom.

7.Learn to smile if you cant, im TRYING! :wall:


I'm hearing you but you can't let people make you someone you aren't. Love, trust and respect are all we have, don't let shallow people take that away from us. Love the little head-banging emotion! I love him lots!



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05 Jan 2011, 7:32 am

GroundhogDaze wrote:
This is the most relevant discussion I have had (been a part of) in a long time. You guys rule. I love you.

Rule #387.2 Never tell strangers you love them. :P


Not only are you some of the funniest people I have ever met but you are brilliant. We have the disability? I think not!
Living in the NT world is like watching people play musical chairs and knowing you can sit down whenever you want. Aspies rule!



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05 Jan 2011, 7:36 am

Can I add all of you to my Facebook?

Rule #398.4 Don't be overly forward when suddenly finding yourself in a welcoming social situation. Try to act paranoid, shallow and insincere like everyone else. Ha! :jocolor: :jocolor: :jocolor: :jocolor: :jocolor:



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05 Jan 2011, 7:12 pm

When asking for something such as needing someone to watch your child, say "Would you" or "could you" not " I need you" or "need someone" because it's more polite to say "would" or "could." It's asking than demanding.


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06 Jan 2011, 6:19 am

Rule #396.5 Uncomfortable silences are only made uncomfortable by the fear of silence. Learn to appreciate silence as a beautiful thing and conversations will flow naturally, even if a little bit sporadically (tried to think of an easier word to use but I don't think I have to anymore! Yay!). I tried this again today and it worked a charm.



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06 Jan 2011, 6:38 am

GroundhogDaze wrote:
Rule #396.5 Uncomfortable silences are only made uncomfortable by the fear of silence. Learn to appreciate silence as a beautiful thing and conversations will flow naturally, even if a little bit sporadically (tried to think of an easier word to use but I don't think I have to anymore! Yay!). I tried this again today and it worked a charm.


I can relate to this. I think it's the reason for my blurting that leads to so much regret and embarrassment. I wonder why I automatically assume it's up to me to keep the conversation going (because I suck at it).



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07 Jan 2011, 3:44 am

I hear ya. :afro:



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07 Jan 2011, 3:52 am

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13 remember to blink and breathe at appropriate rate. Dont accidentally hold your breath because you are so interested in the topic . If you dont blink when looking at others they get creep-ed out

Hmm is that actually 2 rules??


This is my number one rule. Always remember to breathe. It's exactly the same thing actors and actresses tell themselves when they are just about to go on stage and are at a critical stress level. Even when I'm just feeling down, a glass of water and some breathing exercises do the world of good.



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07 Jan 2011, 4:14 am

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Most of the social rules involve lying in order to get along. If they ask if they're fat, lie. If they ask if you like their clothing, lie. If they ask what you did this weekend, lie.

It's tiresome. It goes against everything that comes naturally to try and remember to lie and lie and lie.


I think NT's have a very loose concept of the truth which is aided by very selective/short memories. They can lie about anything and if it's partially true or not really important then it doesn't really matter to them or other NT's. It becomes a problem when people like myself take that information and try to fit it in with what we already know and it doesn't fit, then we get confused and that can lead to feelings of anger or rejection.
:roll: I have learned to tell big whopping lies that nobody could possibly believe but can't actually prove to be untruthful and it makes people laugh, mostly my friends. I really suck at lying but I can make up a pretty good story. 8) :lol:



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07 Jan 2011, 4:19 am

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When you have a baby, do not show photos of your baby coming out of your vagina to anyone except to your partner.

I would assume this applies to men as well, do not show photos of your baby coming out of your wife's or girlfriend's vagina.


That is soooooo funny!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! :lmao: (I hope it was meant to be funny)

Can someone tell me if I'm posting too many times? I can't help it, you guys are so cool! I haven't had anyone to talk to for a long time. NT's don't really have many meaningful conversations, I feel sad for them.



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07 Jan 2011, 6:25 am

Don't tell people about the state of your bowels.



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07 Jan 2011, 4:41 pm

Don't say random things or talk about your special interests.



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07 Jan 2011, 5:44 pm

GroundhogDaze wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
When you have a baby, do not show photos of your baby coming out of your vagina to anyone except to your partner.

I would assume this applies to men as well, do not show photos of your baby coming out of your wife's or girlfriend's vagina.


That is soooooo funny!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! :lmao: (I hope it was meant to be funny)

Can someone tell me if I'm posting too many times? I can't help it, you guys are so cool! I haven't had anyone to talk to for a long time. NT's don't really have many meaningful conversations, I feel sad for them.


No I wasn't trying to be funny. I fail to see the humor in this? Is it because I totally didn't know and it should be obvious this isn't okay? Even aspies pick up on this too without being told and I failed to see this? But luckily only my parents saw it and my dad got offended and my husband fixed it by taking out those photos when he made more discs with baby photos on it to give to people. He forgot they were on the card so he copied everything on it and burned it and gave it to my parents. I was given like a five minute lecture from it from my husband and mother. Mostly from my mother.


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10 Jan 2011, 2:26 pm

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273) Do not clean your ears in front of people, family is okay.


guilty :oops:


Don't worry, non-ASs do it too, especially the male of the species!
So I wouldn't be embarrassed!


Female non-AS do too! :wink:



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11 Jan 2011, 1:28 am

another rule:

If your despirete for a gf/bf, dont post this all over any type of social networks, u know facebook, myspace, twitter, whatever. Cause despiration is not attractive and your most likely scaring off anybody within your social circle with potential. Even if you think no one reads your profile, this is not true. The chances are very high that somebody does and just dosent post anything or say anything.
(I have an old HS friend who does this all the time that Im starting to feel really bad for him)