Inability or difficulty crying?

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I can't cry anymore since like 15, moreover I don't feel sad, just stressed, bored or mad. Though I do automaticly pull 'sad faces' when others are. maybe it's the testosterone

The last time I cried due to an emotional response was when I was 13 and that was because I had accidentally killed a puppy. (I ran it over with my bike because didn't see it in time)

Part of that is because movies have a dramatic buildup that plant the seed and bring it to bloom.

Real life springs things on you and it's a matter of how you react on the moment.

I'm horribly oversensitive, but most people don't realise it. I have NEVER been able to express emotion properly, particularly not negative emotions. I can't seem to do gradual release of anything....it builds up, I don't budge....and then I hit critical mass and explode. This most often happens with anger, sadness, grief, and frustration.

As for crying, I can't manage to do it when I want to or should. I do, however, burst into tears at inappropriate times, usually after weeks or even months of trying to force it out. It seems whenever that feels GOOD and cathartic, it stops after a minute or so. If it keeps going too long (and it has), it becomes painful and uncomfortable.

I don't cry when people die. Sometimes (often) this is because I genuinely don't care, but even in cases (like my grandparents), when I was downright distraught, people commented that I wasn't reacting, and it wasn't normal. I didn't cry for any of my grandparents till a few years after the last of them died. The first died in 1990, the last in 2001. I started 'properly' mourning about 5 years ago. I haven't stopped.

Yeah I'm in the exact same boat as you.

Crying doesn't make me feel better, it just leaves me ashamed and with a throbbing headache.
I find it mortifying to cry in public, so bottle it up until I get to my room.
Lately I seem to be crying almost non-stop when I'm alone, which is pretty exhausting.
I cry when I'm angry. I don't have massive tantrums and throw things around the room when I'm angry, I just cry and hit myself.

Someone said they're off kilter when it comes to crying. Me too. I bawled my eyes out when I saw "Up" last week, and I cried more than I can remember the week following after the death of my best friend.
But then... I can also watch a movie like the Notebook, which I'm sure could fill its own ocean with the tears people have cried over it, and not cry at all. Or I can feel terrible over the death of my grandpa when I was 6 years old, but never cry once.
And then I have panic attacks where I think I'll never stop crying.
So I don't know. I guess my emotions dictate if I'll cry but I try to accept the fact that I'm crying when I am.

I have this problem too, and sometimes my jaw, also, hurts terribly! I think in my case, as a child I cried almost too much. I hated the fact that I cried so much, and it made me even more vulnerable, so I learned how to repress my emotions. I guess I ended up getting so good at that, that as an adult I started to lose the knack for crying! It´s getting a bt better now, but for years and years I couldn´t shed a tear, though I often felt a strong and very painful physical urge for release. I also have this problem when I´m experiencing intense sensory problems- i.e., a crying meltdown is on the way- but I repress it, because I´m in public.

I know what that's like, where you feel it, you know it's coming, but it won't start...

I've often cried but not felt the actual emotion. Weird.