Reading other people, thinking vs feeling

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Quoted because this is an excellent summary of the situation.

I can't stand silence because it bores me. Some cases it's necessary and dramatic, like in the bedroom with my lover and a Beethoven Symphony, but if I'm visiting my friend to say hi and nobody is talking, I can quietly sit by myself without wasting gas.

Good lord, my world is never silent. I always have music going on in my head. I simply cannot ever shut it off.

I would agree with you in the instance of going to visit somebody and them not talking - I'd also start to think, "What was the point of my coming over?" But even in instances where the two (or more) people happen to be together for another purpose and whether they talk or not is irrelevant, such as at work, a great many people still absolutely cannot tolerate a silent room.

I guess I see what you mean. A library is probably the quietest room I've been to, and even though I hear all sounds that go on, I'm sure some people don't pay attention. But I don't think cases like that bother NT's either. I do think a lot of people like the sound of their television or radio when they are at home to distract from the lonliness of being there by themselves, and I don't think that's any different either between AS and NT. As far as work goes, some people prefer to work to music and others don't. It doesn't matter to me because nobody likes my music (hiphop), so I usually let my co-workers decide on those things, and I've worked with a variety. One guy preferred talk radio, but he never wanted to actually work. One lady I worked for had to have Oldies on. I used to change the station to pop and see how long it took her to realize it had changed, and usually within an hour she would notice (although I think one day we went all afternoon with a different station). Now I prefer fast music that helps keep me awake, so when I'm alone, Lil John and the East Side Boys comes on, and I dance and work. As far as talking at work, I guess it depends on the job. I worked in bookkeeping a lot, and we often rarely talked to each other while working except for things like, "Has anyone seen this file?" or "Who entered this debit?" I don't think the silence bothered anyone. Now, as far as talking the chit chat, I love to talk to of course I jumped into chit chat. There was a guy whose job was most secure and he was probably one of the most loved employees. He had no problems with the office politics that was going on at the time. All he did was show up to work, work, eat lunch alone, work, and leave. He rarely talked to anyone, and I still couldn't tell you anything about the guy except his name was John and he usually packed his own lunch and would take a walk after eating to help avoid getting tired. To be honest, hardly anyone wants you to talk much. They much prefer people who listen. I also noticed most people are very happy when you listen to them talk about themselves, especially when you add questions like a myspace quiz.

I have that too. In fact, it's very rare I'll listen to actual music, which a lot of people can't understand. I prefer the music in my head.