If you have little to no friends...

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I have no idea what its like to have friends. So i couldn't tell. (Voted the last option.)
I do feel lonely, but when i see other people being friends with eachother, its something that I can't relate to and I find it very strange. I don't get their motivation for their friendship, and I don't get how people keep their friendship. No-one ever bothered to explain this to me, they just nagged I should socialise with people.

I used to have the belief that socialization was the thing; ya had friends, ya had the world.

Then I discovered there's loads of backstabbing, heartaches, drama, the works.

One thing I really can't get over is this classic line: "why are you with that loser?"

My answer: "which one? could you be more specific? what's the difference between you, him, or that guy over there?"

The point of that scenario is that the majority of the time, the people bash one another, and tell me how much this guy/that guy is a loser...and the people telling me are no better themselves...they just do a way better job of covering their faults up; and believe me, either way the faults are huge.

I see the majority of people in this world, now, on a certain level...and the reason everyone interacts so easily is cause they're all on that level; I'm not on it, and really don't care to be on it either.

Socialization is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO overrated.

I've lost quite a number of friends in my life in the past several months...and ya think I'd be bothered by it, but no...........

I am very happy I have about 5 bffs one is an aspie bu I tolerate his ignorance even though I pty him for being a j***ss he is not my first aspie friend and they are somewhat similar their most striking is their high dependence on family I am pretty much in lamens terms an autistic sociopath because I can manipulate people if I wish but I think it is releativly a side effect of being emotionally abused by my parents, I AM 21 AND HAVE SEEN all the ones I care about die so if the ones I don't feel no care for my mother and biological father and step father I would not care in fact a very dear friend of mine last year died I could not say goodbye and that has hurt me everyday since

I am happy travelling and having my little circles professional and unprofessioal I attract girls, I catalk to anyone if given a nudge easily if uncomfortable at first but I am generally a cool cat and chilled always so I am very proud and happy with myself

You know I don't know if it was in this topic or not...but someone posted that they'd taught themselves to read facial expressions, and once learned can't be unlearned....and the same basically applied to other social skills.

Well, if that's the case I doubt they're AS then, unless they really gave it their all beyond anything.

But that's just it for me, in my case...my new analogy about socialization is as follows:

Studying for years to learn how to be social is like paying full price to see an over-rated movie; the experience just ain't worth the cost of admission.

There'll always be something "off" & "quirky" about me to everyone else, I I'd never be treated like I truly mean anything to them, anyway.

So I say, why do what I'm not good at to attempt attaining phony status...when I can do what I am good at to attain true power?

my close friends (of which there are 3) all have AS along with other disorders and the other are not realy "normal".... I gues what im trying to say is find peole ho under stand your quirks wheather the asd or have an understanding of it.

Or as I also said "gave it your all beyond anything"; hey, I can read some facial signs too; granted, it's usually disgust towards me, but I can read it.

Like the analogy I gave earlier:

Studying for years to learn how to be social is like paying full price to see an over-rated movie...the experience just ain't worth the price of admission.

There'd always be something "off" & "quirky" about me to everyone else, & I'd never be treated like I truly mean anything to them, anyway.

The way I see it is this: why do I what I'm not good at to attempt attaining some phoney status, when I can do what I am good at, and attain true power?

Up until three years ago, the "friends" I had were just rather good acquaintances who I'd sort of hang out with at school. I never went anywhere with them or talked with them outside of school, nor did I want to. It wasn't until I met my best friend on another forum that I truly had a friend who I cared about and WANTED to talk with. I cannot imagine my life without her now, she is such an important part of my life. I have a few other really good friends who I wouldn't want to lose contact with, either. However, as far as wanting more friends, I have no need for that. My best friend and I have never met, since we're forum friends, so that means that I have very few real-life friends. And I don't need them. I'm happiest when I'm by myself, on the computer.
-OddDuckNash99-

My husband (an NT with aspie tendences) is my best friend. I've also become very close (via phone) with my brilliant paternal uncle (who now has cancer) over the past 4 years.

But other than them, I am very isolated socially due to my intense shyness and energy sapping anxiety (which has mellowed a tad with age).

One thing that helps me greatly, is when interacting with people outside in the daytime I usually wear sunglasses. Also, when I get to the cash register to pay for something (fearing cashier social interaction) I either put on my sunglasses as if I'm just getting ready to go out in the sun or I futz with my PDA as if I'm inputting a note.

Many years ago when I worked in a store (display artist) or inspected movie theaters for a living, I used to use a large clipboard as a prop to give me confidence and an air of authority. I usually do better relating to people in person when I appear (or am) in a superior/expert position.

I haven't had an in-person female friend for 12+ years. I don't seem to have much in common with NT females.

People exhaust me.

I have two dd's. One, I strongly suspect is an aspie. She says stuff like, "Let's do such and such to keep the neighbors from coming up here."

The other craves constant attention and interaction. I feel a little bad for her, because maybe our lack of interest in socializing is hard on her. If I were more outgoing, she might be happier. She makes friends at school, but I just suck at getting out there and getting involved.

The classmates in my school are on a little swedish drug known as "Snuff" .. Do you THINK i would want to be friend with them?