02 Aug 2009, 2:27 pm
MsDoubt wrote:
You should reply to all messages. Just don't simply ignore the. if you dont want to talk, then tell them, if they write you again, then you ignore them, that way you wont send the wrong message by ignoring them or replying. but dont simply ignore the message, cuz ow would you feel if you sent someone a message and they ignored yours?..so be generous and kind and say "i dont want to talk to you" or "do i know you" or something along those lines. You never know, these people may be interesting people, but simply ignoring the message, i wouldn't go that route because it's messed up, i dont like when people ignore me. but do what you want to do 
Have to disagreee; if the message is unsolicited or has questionable content, do -not- reply and further the problem. Report the situation to the moderators and allow it to be resolved that way. If it is a conversation you wish to start, that is up to you - but I don't think any member is under obligation to respond to PMs from strangers.
...and if I am online, I'm usually working - not juggling abundant free time.
M.
02 Aug 2009, 3:12 pm
Henriksson wrote:
1. Henriksson writes a PM to you after hearing that you are ill, injured or in trouble offering you their best wishes and hoping that things get better.
Do not reply, instead tell a mod
2. Henriksson telling you about something you have never posted.
Check what you have posted, then send them a polite PM telling them that you think that they have mistaken you for someone else. It happened to me once when someone got the authors in a thread mixed up. Henriksson has probably eaten too much candy again.
3. Something rude, sexual or threatening, eg "I want to $%£& you and £$%&* etc"
Do reply, with a message saying 'Har har, very funny'.
4. Henriksson trying to sell you something, eg "Do you want to buy Viagra, timeshare, new hard disk, stocks and shares etc"
Do not reply, instead tell a mod. Henriksson never gets involved with such activities, so someone must have infiltrated his account.
5. Henriksson writes to you about some topic you have posted on, they might be offering you an insight or information.
Do reply, also they might become your friend. Though he's probably just being a smug bastard.
6. Henriksson has asked you to get involved in a controversial matter, who is trying to recruit you to fight his battle.
Join the Revolution/Hide in the basement
7. Henriksson asks you to get involved in some commercial activity which looks too good to be true. That may well be some new version of the 419 fraud.
Do not reply, instead tell a mod. Henriksson never gets involved with such activities, so someone must have infiltrated his account.
Do not reply, instead tell a mod
2. Henriksson telling you about something you have never posted.
Check what you have posted, then send them a polite PM telling them that you think that they have mistaken you for someone else. It happened to me once when someone got the authors in a thread mixed up. Henriksson has probably eaten too much candy again.
3. Something rude, sexual or threatening, eg "I want to $%£& you and £$%&* etc"
Do reply, with a message saying 'Har har, very funny'.
4. Henriksson trying to sell you something, eg "Do you want to buy Viagra, timeshare, new hard disk, stocks and shares etc"
Do not reply, instead tell a mod. Henriksson never gets involved with such activities, so someone must have infiltrated his account.
5. Henriksson writes to you about some topic you have posted on, they might be offering you an insight or information.
Do reply, also they might become your friend. Though he's probably just being a smug bastard.
6. Henriksson has asked you to get involved in a controversial matter, who is trying to recruit you to fight his battle.
Join the Revolution/Hide in the basement
7. Henriksson asks you to get involved in some commercial activity which looks too good to be true. That may well be some new version of the 419 fraud.
Do not reply, instead tell a mod. Henriksson never gets involved with such activities, so someone must have infiltrated his account.
That made me smile, a rather different set of suggested responses.
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02 Aug 2009, 7:31 pm
02 Aug 2009, 7:48 pm
DW_a_mom wrote:
If you got one about selective autism or similar, with a link at the end, its spam. Delete. The moderators are on it and trying to keep any more from going out.
I would suggest that anytime you get a message that seems to have an agenda behind it you can ask a moderator for an opinion. If someone is using this site to send pm's that are basically spam, we want to know about it and stop it.
Otherwise, most pm's are just friendly and worthy of a polite response. I'm not single so I don't know if the singles get more pm's from those looking for something more ... that might be more, well, complicated
I would suggest that anytime you get a message that seems to have an agenda behind it you can ask a moderator for an opinion. If someone is using this site to send pm's that are basically spam, we want to know about it and stop it.
Otherwise, most pm's are just friendly and worthy of a polite response. I'm not single so I don't know if the singles get more pm's from those looking for something more ... that might be more, well, complicated
Yeah. That's the one I got.
I actually did reply to it... with an insult.
Sometimes I get really weird PMs from people I hadn't been talking to in a topic and it kind of takes me off guard, but the spam PM was why I made this topic. I didn't know if it was spam or from someone who "thought" they knew me.
02 Aug 2009, 10:29 pm
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02 Aug 2009, 11:07 pm
southwestforests wrote:
Here's one I got today:
Pull up reh009's profile and this is it:
Notice how soon after joining the message was sent.
Apparently joined just to be a spammer 
Quote:
From: reh009
To: southwestforests
Posted: Sat Aug 01, 2009 1:28 am
Subject: Non-verbal Autistic Causes Controversy Quote message
http://amandabaggscontroversy.blogspot.com/
To: southwestforests
Posted: Sat Aug 01, 2009 1:28 am
Subject: Non-verbal Autistic Causes Controversy Quote message
http://amandabaggscontroversy.blogspot.com/
Pull up reh009's profile and this is it:
Quote:
All about reh009
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Notice how soon after joining the message was sent.
Apparently joined just to be a spammer I got the same, but from sumpr. Seem the spammer got more that one account. At least it was interesting.... (I didn't know the universe of a schizophren could be so fascinating...)
02 Aug 2009, 11:57 pm
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03 Aug 2009, 8:17 pm
04 Aug 2009, 1:33 am
Depends on an array of factors
What the pm is about
who it is from - I mean, do I know them?
What mood i'm in at the time 
