Why is it that I always get hated on other forums?

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Very true. People feel threatened.

For the most part, I've not had this problem, but I think that's because the Internet lets me look at what I'm posting and think about it before sending it.

If you type as you talk (once it's out, you can't bring it back), perhaps you aren't reviewing your post long enough to consider if it might come across wrong to others. I know sometimes my posts get a bad response, but they aren't often because I take time to look over them before sending.

I've seen many people get upset over things being spoken about bluntly. My boyfriend tells me I come across as very cold when we are messaging back and forth on the comp actually. So it could just be misinterpretation all around, and the emotions start coming out when things are taken the wrong way, or when you say something they don't want to hear.

He can never tell if I'm joking, being sarcastic, happy, indifferent, or anything. All he sees is the words and it can cause a big mess of problems because there isn't anything else to go by.

We have MANY arguments through chat that wound up resolved over the phone, because I can explain things that way after it has calmed down.

On most forums though, that option isn't available, and many are not willing to listen once they've got the idea in their heads that you are being a "forum troll" and whatnot. Once they get that idea (I've noticed it even on here at times with past members, which is why I left for a while-there was a bit of arguing quite often for a while there), that's it. There is no changing it.

...and when it comes to opinions, it's always a debate that can go on forever. While we can usually debate and be okay by the end of it, they get heated and emotional, and there's no way to argue that. We cannot say a word about how they are feeling, and if one tries, it makes it worse often....eventually turning into a bunch of people being really mad at the person dubbed the "troll" regardless of their initial intentions.

Am I talking in circles or making sense... my thoughts are too scattered atm on this subject to really tell for some reason.