What AS trait causes you to suffer the most?

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Social Interaction WAY too many times I say/do the wrong thing unfourtanently.

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Sensory + routines + speech/language bother me most about AS.

These may not be the most severe of my AS symptoms, but these are the impairments that limit me the most in my normal everyday life.

Social interaction is irrefutably my issue. The ironic thing is that if I was talking to people about my interests I would have no problem and that understanding international relations is so much easier then personal relations.

If I was with my colleagues in a non-governmental organization or in the United Nations or anything like that, I would not have any issues talking to them about business issues, but if I was on a date or on a informal social event I would have issues. Generally, and this is making generalizations, but I am better with formal events then informal events. There is order, clear set of expectations, things are written, and there are general expectations which are blindlingly obvious.

To quote Peter Gabriel "strange is your language and I have no decoder, why don't you make your intentions clear, your body to the sand and the mouth to the sun, tell me the truth you have nothing to fear" is basically my issue.

This question is hard for me. I have problems with obsessive thoughts. I was diagnosed PDD/ Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so my obsessions are a big part of my life. They help me though too. Without my obsessive nature, I wouldn't have been as successful as I am in my job (ballet). However, I would be able to enjoy a conversation that wasn't about my obsessions. So you could say it's, "a two way street". So I guess I suffer the most from social interaction problems, which are caused by my obsessions.

This poll needs an "All of the Above" option.

I checked social interaction because I believe that this has always been one of my biggest challenges. I can look back and see by some of the put-downs and some of the chuckles that came my way after I said or did something that my ability to understand the ways of the world had gone missing from day one.

gramirez, are you sure there isn't ONE that affects you more than the rest?

good question!

anxiety

emotionally, the most difficult -

the distance what I keep with my best friends, even if I don’t want to.

Sensory issues, definitely.

Eyes = extreme sensitivity to light.

Social interaction. I'm finally employed in a job where "Office Politics" aren't the way to get ahead. I can't tell you how heart breaking it has been to be manipulated and deceived by fellow employees ...

I think it is not an AS trait per se, more like a coexisting condition, but I really dislike prosopagnosia.

Not only is it the thing that I believe causes more immediate hurt in people I consider my friends (when I don't recognize them if I meet them in not-the-usual place, or they change their looks), it also makes me feel stupid.

Those two things make me want to get rid of it.

Yes, prosopagnosia bothers me a lot too.

With other things I feel more at ease explaining I am not ignoring them when they feel I might, or working extra hours to compensate when I can't get organized enough to finish something. But I haven't found a way to explain someone I'm supposed to know (and I really do, because I could tell you everything about them and the things we've shared and how many good times we have spent together) how I didn't immediately recognize them even when looking straight at them.

I can't quite put my finger on it. I would say it's anxiety and depression but those are things NT's deal with as well.

I'd say it's the social part but unlike a lot of other aspies I don't really try too hard to fit in with people. I don't find people that I think are compatable with me very often. Generally people bore me. I'm weird because I have interests such a reading/doing math for fun. I generally don't drink and don't go to parties ever. I get depressed though because I'm understimulated when there's no-one to share what's going on inside my head with.