Do you have more social anxiety around girls or guys?

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Women, especially very attractive ones. I've always felt less pressure with other guys, and men seem a little more chill anyway when it comes to being different. I'm baffled when people say women are more understanding of disabilities. Maybe you mean physical ones? Mental ones -or what they perceive as mental- freaks them the **** out!

I'm a guy and I actually prefer the company of women.

That's a factor that I glossed over in my mind but didn't even mention in my answer (since I was so busy going off on a tangent as usual). But it's a huge one. At this stage in my life, not living in dorms or working in an office, I'm not even really exposed to much of that female group stuff. I see the groups of women when I go to pick up my kids from school, and they're the same women I've been seeing for six years, so I'm probably supposed to be one of them. I made an attempt back when our kids were starting kindergarten, but that petered out immediately. Now, I have to admit, I kind of see them the same way I see flocks of seagulls on the beach.

Actually, I remember joining in once, back when that group was fairly new, and I hadn't yet established my identity as the weirdo who stands off in the shadows. Everyone was talking about how hard it is to find jeans that fit well. One complained that her waist was too small compared to her hips (which is kind of a non-complaint, because that describes a very feminine figure), and one complained that her legs were too long (oh tragedy). They all were like, "Oh, me too! Oh, girl, I know exactly what you mean! It's so true!" Well, what I heard was people complaining about jeans that don't fit, and not disguised brags about their body types. So, since I was sitting right there, I said that I solve my jeans-fitting problem by wearing men's jeans, because I have no waist at all (a very unfeminine figure type). That went down like an iron dirigible. It was clear that I had broken some rule, but it wasn't until just now that I realize what it was.

With guys I often feel out-raced. Like they'll be talking about something and I'll soon feel like I'm not in the running with them. This usually happens when we start talking about interests and even if it is about interests that I hold, it has to go on a narrow stream or I am completely lost. If we are talking about the old ladies and life at home then it's not so intimidating.

With women it doesn't get so intimidating because they know which hobbies will be similar for both genders. And if they venture into one of my particular interests, I keep it to what they will be interested in.

For the most part I keep my special interests on the internet because there is particular communities for each of them that I can go on long about it. I try to keep my interests away from real life people unless we're meeting from the online communities.

I don't know if anxious is the right word or not, but I get frustrated around women if I'm attracted to them. I get frustrated because I get such little exposure to women I'm attracted to and when it does happen, there's never a valid/viable way to meet/interact with them.

Girls. Even though I am one.

I just don't feel very comfortable around them. Unless they're one of my best friends.
But alot of my best girl friends are very tomboyish or they aren't all that girly.
I kind of get annoyed by or I am unable to stay friends for very long with a girly girl, and by girly girl, a girly who not only dresses girly but acts girly and like girly things and always mushes on about cute boys or clothes and appear to all the same personality.
And I said APPEAR in case someone here does act somewhat like that.

Plus, I am more guyish rather than girly since I understand guys or tomboys better than girly girls. For example, I know why most guys like sports and conpetition but I don't understand why girly girls think a certain piece of clothing is "cute."

Plus all girly girls I met tend to be a little more rude. So I've come to not trust them very much.

I'm a female but I am very anxious around females. I think this is because most of the harsh bullying was predominantly from females. I'm viewed as "one of the boys" and even my boyfriend will joke and say, "What do you mean you're a girl?"

Around guys, especially the good looking ones. My social anxiety is peaked to muteness accept for indecipherable 'eeeking' sounds around male band members...especially the goodlooking bass players.

And Elderwander, don't trust the results of an online test. If you had severe social anxiety you'd know. The best way to find out is to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.
Severe for me was 'mind freezing' when around a group of people and anxiety attacks.

I feel more relaxed around men.

I find that I have more social anxiety around women. I find that on a day that I'm working that it's mostly guys that I'm working with, I'm able to just kick back and chill and say what's on my mind. I find that the women are more judgemental and they try to make assumptions about me that aren't true, without even getting to know me, first. The same thing happened to me at the factory, 13 to 15 years ago. The girls were making assumptions that I was a hippie, until this one day that I came to work, the day of the BBQ, dressed like The Kinks, but wearing a black hunting style jacket and dancing to "You Shouldn't Be Sad" by the same group. That gave those girls a wake-up call. Let's just say that I liked what I saw looking back at me, in the mirror, that day. The guys loved it, by the way. They loved that I was being myself, for once.

Seems most seem to be much more anxious around females.

Figures then that I would be more comfortable around them than around males, though honestly a group of both is best (if it HAS to be a group anyway). With a group of women I have 0 difficulty, and I don't get "creeped out" as apparently most guys do whenever women start talking about women things, yet in a group of guys, the conversation always slips to sports or cars, topics I actively hate, or worse, sex, where all the guys do is try to outdo each other talking as dirty and offensively as possible it seems, which is just highly annoying. I mean seriously, why do guys have to brag about how they blatantly treated a woman like a sex object?

Meh. I prefer to hang around the others in my head, my few friends, and gaming girls. Tis' for the best.

It depends on who the girls/guys are and how they are behaving.

Overall I don't think I get more social anxiety with one sex compared with the other, but there are some individual cases where the anxiety seems to be because it's a woman or because it's a man. With men it's sometimes their brash, macho competitive thing that makes me want to go for the exit door, and I'm sure I'd feel really threatened if I stuck around. With women it's sometimes the anxiety of my not knowing quite where the line is between being friendly and flirting.......usually I try to err slightly on the side of coldness, and I worry that they probably think I just don't like them.

I'm a guy, and I get much more anxious around women, especially if there are no other guys around. Mostly because I never know what they're thinking and they never seem to say what's on their mind unless they're really angry or drunk. Even worse is when they're drunk and angry.

I seem to get anxious around women as i find them unpredictable and somewhat bitchy at times.

Mostly girls. I don't know what they are going to do when I talk to them or say hi. Either they will be nice or respond, or ignore me and leave.