Do you use short respones in conversations?

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I tend to use short responses if I get a lot of questions in a row. I think it kind of confuses the NTs who expect a longer answer with more details. I tend to think like: I get a question, and I answer exactly that question. (Sometimes it may mean that I give a long answer. )

Sometimes, when the NTs get confused over my short answer instead of a more elaborate smalltalk-like one, they will ask the same question one more time - or even two more times! That annoys me because I think: what is it about "yes" or "no" or "I don't know" that you don't understand?? I thought I gave the most clear, understandable answer it was possible to give - and still you don't understand it? (Normally I won't answer exactly that, but will put it more diplomaticly.)

Example:
NT: Have you had any exams this semester?
Me: No.
NT: Haven't you had any exams?
Me: No.
NT: But haven't you had any exams at all?!
Me: (Silent, struggling with both what to say in order not to be rude and with my annoyance)... As I said before: no! I can't put it more simple! (Or I may say: When I say no, I mean no.)

Does that sound familiar to anyone?

And then they'll usually explain that they expected me to tell why I didn't have any, or that they didn't understand that I hadn't had any, or something like that.
But then, why not ask why, or just say "I wonder", instead of saying the same thing??

BTW I don't understand why I have to give a lecture on why... I mean, why is it important?
When I did have exams, I got tired to have to tell about my exams, which ones and when, over and over again for months both before and after, so I guessed when I didn't have exams any longer, I was over that. But apparently not.
That's one of those smalltalk things.

BTW, they say that we can't read when NTs get bored with our rambling on about our obsessions. But can they read when we get bored with their smalltalk?!
It goes both ways.
But that's another thing they "forget" to tell us, like the empathy / Theory of Mind thing that they tend to have towards us in lesser degree than to "their own kind". As I see it.