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Spokane_Girl

13 Dec 2009, 1:53 pm

Whatsherhame wrote:
God, yes.


'Bring the laundry'

So I gathered it up into a big wad and brought it to her, but I didn't know that she wanted me to put it in a basket, fold it properly, separate it into lights, darks and colors, and THEN bring it to her.




I would have done the same thing. But now I now what it means. I think this is just lazy talk people do.



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"The trash needs to be taken out...

...yes it does" WRONG

...I'll go take it out" WRONG

...so go do it" RIGHT



I don't get it.



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"Can you tell your sister to come here, please?"

"Ok. SARAH!"

"I could have done that."

"Why didn't you?"


I don't get this either. Why would someone tell you to call someone and you do it and then she says she could have done it?



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13 Dec 2009, 7:12 pm

X_Parasite wrote:
Directly asking, rather than implicitly suggesting, comes off as sort of naggy.


But I find it less stressful to be directly asked. Then I know what is being said rather than what may or may not be implied.

@ Spokane:

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he said where my common sense was and how long had I been working there now. Why would he tell me to bring up the beds and not have me make them. I said others were going to make them maybe. He was mad at me for not using my "common sense."


I feel for ya. I hate hate hate hate this kind of vague expectation. I get the 'where is your common sense' thing too and it makes me feel like a worthless moron when someone does that. If it's that necessary why not just ask the person directly?


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14 Dec 2009, 2:14 am

I hate that, I also hate it when people give me a statemnt and expect a response from me. Ask, command, or inform


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