Has anyone ever told you to grow up?

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Actually, for me, it's the other way around. When I'm in class (I'm in high school, currently) I'm the one thinking "GROW UP, PEOPLE!! !"

When NT's are teenagers (mostly the boys), they are at their most immature state (and ugly state, in the case of my high school boy peers XD). However, they at least have fun and aren't depressed all the time.

But, as you all know, when an Aspergian or Autistican is a teenager, it's really different. For me, specifically, it means still not being able to choose what I want to truly wear, not able to make friends as smoothly as my peers, and feeling the biggest rip from my parents called "growing into an adult" (I feel it more than the NT teen, who doesn't care about it).

But I have an advantage. I can so handle my emotions, and I'm so mature that NT teen boys make babies look mature (as my sort-of-favourite teacher once pointed out; he specifically told them "You guys are so immature that you make babies look mature". Thank you, Mr. Costello! You really are the most awesome teacher in my school, even if you're slightly loud and intimidating!).

Well, if someone tells me to grow up now (and if they're a teen), I'll just say: "No, you grow up. Kick all your addictions, stop calling people f*gs, n**bs, and douche bags and listen to the teachers when they're trying to teach a lesson."

Same like me... When im in the streets, people don't bother me and they don't tell me to grow up but i still get it at home though, when i turned 18, it seemed to have doubled and i feel like i just dont want to grow up

oh grow up

yeah, some people were having a laugh at my expense, and because I didn't laugh it off etc. I was told to grow up.

go figure

Frequently.
In future I think my answer will be 'and why would I want to do that?'

my wife tells me to grow up almost every day and I am 10 years older than she is

just play deaf and say...did you just tell me to GROW OP??Arent those illegal?

Not really. At least not that I've noticed. Except for one time. I was 9 years old. My dentist yelled at me, "Grow up!! !" because I had a strong gag reflex and it made it hard for him to do his work.

The last dentist that did something mean to me
got his instrument tray kicked and refused any pauyment.

I threatened a malpractse siute and he shut up.

Yep, all the time by selfish people who try invalidate who I am as a person. No, I don't do typical "grown-up" things, either socially or material interests like cars, clothes, etc. I probably dress like a teenager; jeans, t-shirts, hoodies, and sneakers. Instead of going out(ever), I listen to/play music, or read. My favorite t.v. show is Doctor Who. I spend a lot of time researching the things that interest me. I don't care about the things most people my age do, nor do I have any friends or romantic interests.

However, those interests don't make me not grown up. I think I'm more responsible than many people, my age and older. I have not hurt anyone by being myself, so it makes me angry when people tell me to grow up. I am generally happy with who I am, I'm only unhappy due to the interference of others and pressures of society.

In answer to the original question, sure, but I didn't regard it as a big deal.

Everyone reaches legal adulthood missing some of the bits that make a decent and complete adult member of society. Which bits those are differ from person to person, but we all have them. There's no shame in it.

But being a legal adult means that taking care of those missing bits and seeing to it that they get developed falls on the person themselves, and no one else. It's okay to have the missing bits, but it's not okay to just leave them missing. You have to figure out how to go out and get them.

Looking at it that way has always made it easier to work on those areas in myself -- no biggie, just something that has to be done, and something everyone has to do.

Ugh, my sympathies. My mother did that A LOT when I was in high school.

My father said she did it out of jealousy that I could run intellectual rings around her. Could it be something like that in your case?

LOL. There will be a neverending supply of people who say that, too.

I am often told to "grow up" as well as "get a grip".

'Get a grip' is a favourite of one of my family members, as is 'get a life'.

LOL!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !
I know how you feel... I still daydream ALOT and still would play with toys and like the comercials for some of the toys I see and want them... Oh well... when I have My OWN appartment, I'll play with them and to hell with what others think. I'm only 23 and I still LOVE playing with Legos... Granted I usually knock whatever I'm making over because of being overwhelmingly clumsy, but it's still fun. I LOVE VIDEO GAMES!! !! !! !! !! !! !
Hugs!
~Eilidh