Seriously people, whats with the attitude?

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Why are you bothered by NT trashing?

It is unfair to trash an entire group when some of them treat one badly.

Like when a teacher keeps a whole class in the classroom at recess when only a few were misbehaving. not fair on the good ones.

I don't think it's so much a conflict between ASD people and NT people, as it is one between people who value the socially constructed idea of normalcy at all costs, enforcing it ruthlessly, and those who do not, will not and cannot fit into that norm. If one reframes the conflict like that, I think there is a case to be made for one being superior to the other.

We need NT's. I know I could not survive without them. However, they need us as well. We are different cogs in the same machine. When I say "we" and "them," I am talking in general terms. I get frustrated sometimes with NT's I work with because I can show them the same thing over and over and while they say they get it, they make the same mistakes again and again. I work on their computers, cars, locks TV's DVD players, plumbing, electrical stuff etc., and they seem to really appreciate what I do for them. They also give me money to support myself, remind me to comb my hair, and make sure that I'm wearing a jacket on a cold day or night. I can say that we are not superior to them and they are not superior to us, although some on each side think otherwise.

I need Aspies cause I'm Aspiesexual

I think that aspies are the ones who have most in common with NT's, apart from the other ones, like autism, I ahve never heard of a person with autism or HFA who is depressed, anxious, suicidal, only aspies.

I'm often lazy and today didn't feel like reading all 44 replies in this post, so what I say may have already been noted.

I keep seeing a recurring statement in various threads that goes something like this: "Not all Aspies have had good experiences with NTs."

I just want to note that not all NTs have good experiences with NTs and thus, why would people with AS be any different?

I agree with the post mostly, however, the attitude it represents as seeing those with those views as being wholly unsavory people because they live with a very strong stereotype is rather unaccepting in itself. Granted, that is not a concession that their views are justified, they're not. But, what should be done is a gentle prod and showing how their views are incorrect. Telling someone that they shouldn't view all NT's or Blacks, Whites, Muslims or Jews, Democrats or republicans as bad just because it's wrong and to say it with your own contempt for their prejudice normally just tends to set them harder in their places. That's where they start to turn on you, thinking you're simply trying to undermine them.

It's a nasty part of humanity, but sometimes their prejudice has a very good reason, despite being wrong. If a woman is raped when she's 12 and starts to hate all men because of it, yes it's wrong, but you have to gently and subtly convince her of that, not "You're being wrong and cruel, now stop it." That just doesn't work with humans unfortunately, it wouldn't work with any emotional beings. Try to get a dog to like people after it's been beat by a bad owner for most of it's life, you won't be convincing it to not bite you any time soon, I guarentee it, especially if you smack it on the nose for biting you.