What were you like in school?

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All through school I was very shy and a loner. The fact that we went from country to country (my father waas in the airforce) didn't help at all. I was always getting into trouble because I was too shy to speak out in class. The teachers always called on me for answers and my shyness and indecision made it difficult to speak.

By the time I entered Jr. High I was ahead of everyone else. I was moved forward and graduated early. That brought on a whole new set of problems. I wish now they hadn't done that because it was not good for me at all.

I'm still very shy and reclusive today.

I wrote a really REALLY long reply and then scrapped it because I realized the detail of the reply was way out of proportion to the question. Does anyone else on here have a problem with giving out too much information and turning off social contacts?

The short version:
I was always the teacher's pet right from my first day of school, and the bullies' punching bag from about grade 3 until I graduated. I loved math, geography and sciences, disliked languages and hated both history and phys-ed. I never had any real friends until grade 8, when I met someone who would be diagnosed with an autism-spectrum condition (don't know if it was AS or not) about a decade later. It seemed like he and I were the only people in the world who understood each other. In spite of our friendship (or because of it?) we both suffered from terrible depression and both of us spent long hours talking each other out of suicide. Obviously we both made it out of high-school but eventually drifted apart. My next close relationship didn't happen for another 5 or 6 years.

Jetson I'm like that, I always bore people with too much information! If someone asks me how I'm doing, I literally tell them how I'm doing! I think most people what you to just say "fine".

Kindergarden: I needed breaks from the other kids and rested on a couch, mostly after playing outside for a while. Got headaches sometimes.
1st class: We had an older friend to watch us and follow us to school the first week, and I would just stand with her, she had to push me to go and play with other kids.
2nd-4th : I got my first "best friend" in 3 grade, she was new, and got picked on because of huge glasses and the fact that she brought a teddy bear with her the first day. We were friends from that day. She asked my about my secrets, and I told her about everything she asked. The next day the whole class knew about them. We stayed friends, because she said she meant no harm to me...Felt sick a lot and stayed home or with grandma, when I wasn't allowed to anymore, I eventually found out that I could go somewhere else. I brought a pencil and a little book, and went for long walks in the woods nearby. I made some friends and thought I was a bit popular for a while, but sometime in forth grade I became very shy.
5-6th : Wasn't so shy anymore, but got in trouble, a lot of misunderstandings, I think. Me and my friend from 3d grade stole things and gave them or sold them to people in school. A girl in class asked me where I got them, and if they were stolen. I knew I should not say yes, but I just couldn’t say anything else. The books was returned to the shop.
7-9th: stayed in the library a lot of the time, or in some teachers office to be alone when I needed to. Got a lot of understanding from some, but in trouble with others. Felt like I didn't fit in, but I had some good friends.
High school: Did well, and got friends because I was good in most subjects, but I hated gym, and once I came in late, I walked in to the wrong class in the gym, and stayed with them, until I was told that it was not my class.. I was so embarrassed of this, and also found a boyfriend and quit after 3 months. Went to several schools after that, almost one a year, or more, because I tried to switch schools in the middle of the year. I got bullied, was bored, or something else. So, I got kids, and I have tried to study in the evenings, and the last school I started was for in autumn last year. Was very bored, liked to talk with others, but felt totally misunderstood. Now I study on the net.. eventually

About giving too much information, I do that too. As a child i wrote a 10 pages long letter with pictures of the whole family, and my life story. And wondered why I didn't get an answer. The latest example is with my last date, he was so curious, and I ended up with answering everything, and he got mad at me for using him as a psyciatric or something, but I didn't mean to at all, I just answered what he asked.

I give out too much information too. At the begining of the year two workmates that I had from where I was volunteering told me they don't want to know me. One sent me an sms saying "you need more help that I relized and more support than I am willing to give, no more contact please". I never wanted her help! She constantly made me feel inadaquite with her 'help'.

This is a whole other post though and at the moment it is still a jumbled mess that I feel quite horrible about because I have no idea what happened.

ElfMan

I was sometimes in special ed and sometimes not. I went to a theraputic preschool and kindergarden in Chicago, where I first started therapy. I was painfully shy and didn't know how to relate to anyone or anything. During recess I always went off by myself instead of playing with the other kids, and the teachers told my parents that I was always off in my own world. But my mother said that at home I would sometimes be quiet like that and then all of a sudden go into these raging temper tantrums for no reason. i don't remember most of this. But because my communication skills were in the normal range, they would not consider me as Autistic.

When I started elem. school, we moved out to the suburbs. I attended a regular school but in spec. ed in first grade, then a different regular school but in spec. ed for second grade, then chaged schools a third time for third grade, but was in regular classes. I stayed at that school through sixth grade in regular classes. I mostly played by myself at recess, never got detention, and I was one of those kids where if other kids were seen around me they would get made fun of. I was really sensitive and cried whenever I thought I did something wrong and of course didn't understand what made me different from everyone else. I also remember not ever having a real birthday party because I never had enough friends for one. I did have a couple of friends that I saw once in awhile but I noticed that they didn't like to play with me and others, or include me in their groups of other friends. I continued to see a therapist privately.

Went to regular junior high for 7th and 8th grade, continued to see a therapist and the school social worker. But in 8th grade I was hospitalized for depression for 3 weeks. I also started to take medication. make fun of me and I mostly ate lunch by myself, again never getting a detention.


In high school, I started out in reg. classes, but late in my freshman year I was hospitalized again. A month later when I was put in special ed, but behavior disorders class with all the kids who got detentions and suspensions all the time. I never did get detention and all the kids made fun of be for being so naive and I never really understood. I was mainstreamed very quickly since special ed is remedial classes which I never needed, but I used my spec. ed teacher as a resource person, which I needed when my father died and my mother, who had and still has severe mental illness became emotionally and verbally abusive.

I was always very quiet in school. In elementary school, I always had some friends around, but in sixth grade I moved, and didn't really make many friends. I was mostly unaware of other people though, and so never really noticed whether I had friends and never considered it that important. I was very smart and was put in the gifted program in third grade. I would mostly just read books in class or daydream instead of paying attention and still make A's. I was rarely a discipline problem and I always cried whenever I got in trouble for doing something wrong.

In 8th grade, I made a good group of friends but we had a falling out in 9th grade. That's when I noticed how important friends were and got depressed. In 11th grade, I started taking college classes and living on campus in a special program. I had a nervous breakdown and started therapy. Today, I'm still working on finishing my major but am thankfully out of thereapy.

mm i coudlnt talk until i was 6yrs old. anyway i was a loner throughout primary school, but at the same time, i played sports with the boys all the time. the teachers were my only friends because they had something interesting and more mature to talk about than the other kids just talking out whose friend is whose and shopping and boring stuff like that.

in high school, i was a loner again simply because the kids there were boring as well and didnt like to talk bout politics or geography or current affairs or other adult topics that i was interested. i was always scared in social situations, infact i guess i had a social phobia to some degree. it was only until i went into the psych ward first time that my mind opened up to new pple that ive never heard of, and those pple whove had it really rough and who i would say have been on the wrong side of the tracks.

now because of that i am quite social - however in the classroom i was always the only kid putting their hand up all the time, and at tafe (my college) now i ask questions that havnet been covered by the teachers yet. one thing i really hate is when pple ask a question that the teacher has already explained .. its like - come on dumbass you should have just listened.. because of my atypical autism, i seem to absorb words and stuff way better than NT's.. i dont really need to study because i learn everything while i listen to the teacher talk about it. most other pple cant do this, and thus have to read through their notes or ask stupid questions. oh well i like being the nerd of the class again thanks to my unfair natural advantage i have now (my autism).

id rather have autism than be boring and normal and stupid~!

Well, First I must say, that school was hell for me. Truly. If you have ever read the book"Please Stop Laughing at Me" we'll just say I would have been lucky to be in her situation. At school, I changed from the girl who sat in the front of the room and knew all the answers, to the girl who sat in the back of the room and never said a word if she could help it.

i was able to get past the loner stage a few times. Basically it was not at school, but mostly at church and such.
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i was admitted to the psych ward for panic disorder for 12 days. being in there was the most different and unique place ive ever been in. it opened my eyes up to the world, and it changed me from being quiet to talking to everyone about my illness. i like to tell my story and people often say that ive come a long way during my life from horrible to better.. i like!!

I was kicked out of nursery school. I was fragmented and incapable of behaving like the other children. I don't know what other people thought of me, but I felt like I could see everything clearly and school was like gauze around my head. I hated everything about nursery school

I was kicked out of kindergarten. What a mess that was! I was constantly in trouble, crying about stuff. I don't remember much about it. It was horrible.

I was a bad student, had no friends, was socially graceless, and a total dork. I was made fun of by everyone and my teachers all hated me.

I had a horrible time in middle school, 8th grade was the last year that I had passing grades. I was obsessed with Simon leBon. It was annoying to everyone. My Aunt was the only person who could see that this was a sign of mental illness (no offense, Mr. leBon).

I bleached my hair, became a glammy punk sort of kid, kept my nose clean and avoided school as best I could. I figured out, long before, that drugs were really a bad idea for a person like me (barely in touch with the rest of the world). I still have never smoked pot and I didn't drink underage. I have a few beers every now and then. I dropped out at 16.

I was living with my future husband at 17, married at 19, didn't like my husband, but was helpless to alter my own course. By 22 I had a son, was separated, broke, uneducated and shopping for secretary work.

In my mid-20's I started coming out of the fog of my youth a little.

Now that I'm in my 30's, life is much better. I'm happily married, have 4 kids, am a Camp Fire leader, and a valuable member of my bizarre community! My oldest son is an Aspie, and my youngest seems to be NT. My husband is definitely NT.

Stick to school, get to college!! The only place I ever found anything like acceptance was with the Quakers. The Quakers are really good. Check 'em out!

-Eva