Extremes in Aspergers

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Very low self esteem
Lack of confidence
Extremely passive
Barelly talking (With rare exception)
Extremely negative
Over-trusting or not trusting people enough (Can vary between the two)
Very private
Have grow from very naive to very cynical (Thanks the World )

High self-esteem
A normal amount of confidence...? (but probably go between extremes depending on subject)
Very passive
Barely talk at all (except sometimes with family I talk too much)
Positive/negative depends on who/what/when/where
Not trusting
Very private
Naive/cynical depends on who/what/when/where

When I'm feeling negative, I'm a lot more cynical, and when I'm positive, I'm more naive.

I think my core self is positive/naive but I have recurring bouts of being negative/cynical.

I'm all that but it depends on how I feel. If I feel happy because I have not too many problems, I show confidence, talks a lot, positive, over trusting, open. But when I have shut down, then I have low self-confidence, become agressive, talk not at all, too negative, don't trust noone.

So I do get to the extreme, I easily get caught in vicious circles. I'm not bipolar since those extreme don't come in cycle but depends on what's happening in my life!

I'm trying hard to find a balance in everything. The more I know about asperger, the more I can find a balance in my life by knowing my flaws

I refer to myself as "all or nothing girl"....

Cynic is an optimist's name for a realist

I doubt it. I don't see how experience would create exactly your combination of traits and not some other.

Very high self-esteem or very low self esteem
Over-confident or lacking in confidence
Extremely passive or extremely aggressive
Talking too much or barely talking at all -Extreme fear of saying something insensitive or hurting someone's feelings.
Very positive or extremely negative
Over-trusting or not trusting people enough -High school did this to me. I wanted friends, but after that, I gave up
Extremely open (e.g telling things they may not want to know) or very, very private. - Hmm..I don't know. I guess it depends on the people I talk to.
Very naive/gullible or very cynical [b]I don't know how to answer this. I don't know exactly what cynical means. But I do only believe what I read in a book"

I think I have periods where I flip between the two extremes. It depends on the situation and what is happening.

But I usually have high confidence

I don't know how much it applies to this. But I read a study a long time ago where they had rated a bunch of autistic and nonautistic people on this long questionnaire. Basically had people rate them from 1 to 3 on any number of traits. Where 1 was not at all, 3 was a whole lot, and 2 was somewhere in the middle. And what they found (and I don't think they were expecting to find) was that it wasn't as much that autistic people scored higher or lower on any given trait than nonautistic people, it was that autistic people tended towards the extreme ends and nonautistic people tended towards the middle. As overall trends, that is.

I think you're on to something. I definitely fit into these extremes:

Very high self-esteem
Extremely passive
Barely talking at all
Very positive
Very private

PS: This is my first post!

1. usually pretty low self esteem.

2. Mostly lacking confidence, sometimes it's up, but it doesn't take much to knock it back down.

3.Mostly passive, I only become aggressive if I'm backed in to a corner.

4. I barely talk at all, pretty much only to my family and even then only a little. rarely I'll go off on a tangent and nothing will shut me up, but for the most part, I don't talk. I've literally gone more then a week that I didn't say a word.

5. It depends, sometimes positive, other times, negative.

6. I'm naturally way over-trusting, which has let me to not trust anyone as a defense mechanism to keep from being taken advantage of.

7. Extremely guarded and private, I don't let anyone in, not even my family.

8. I think this goes along with trusting, and like with trusting, it's caused me to go to the far extreme to protect myself.

Edit to fix my numbers.

I sometimes wonder if it's that we have a more primal way of seeing the world. A way of seeing the world in a more binary sense because the shades of gray were what got you killed. Like you got hurt doing activity x, well, chances were if activity x was really dangerous the people who kept saying 'well maybe it's not that bad, lets try again and see how it goes this time' didn't exactly meet with a particularly good end while the people who immediately put that activity into the mental category of dangerous got to live longer.

Like ah, an interesting article I read a few years back about whether people questioned if they made the right decision. From an evolutionary standpoint that's newer than the ability to make a decision and be absolutely behind so firmly that you even reject the other option to the point of revulsion. Something about how it was more important in a survival situation to be able to make a decision and commit to it fully than to go all Woody Allen over it while something with pointy teeth took the opportunity to grab itself a slightly neurotic lunch.

I wonder if its because we don't things by halves. When we decide on something we take it seriously and see it through. So maybe we decided its best to be confident, so we become extremely confident. Or some decide its best to stay timid, so we become very timid.

I tend to be very extreme in my attitudes to just about anything or anyone.
I find it hard to see the the so-called nuances of situations.
I hate people but I love humanity and I want to serve it in a positive way.
I am very emotional and have very sharp changes of attitude and mood.
People think I hate or disrespect them by my demeanor even I don't.
I tend to be very cynical about people and skeptical about any claims to knowledge that I personally cannot verify.
I trying to write about who and what I am and the kinds of experiences I've had with others and why.
I wish I learned that I had Asperger's much earlier in life so that I could be more like the younger people her.
I feel like an outsider wherever I go, but I shrink from contact with others other than superficial, perfunctory contact.
I always torn between two extremes.
I get lonely being all alone, a hermit, a solitary, and sometime something clicks inside of me and I seek out people even if I'm alone in a crowd, but when I get too close to people or they get to me I flee into myself into privacy and solitude.
When this happens I feel like I standing on a sinking ship. The only thing I know to do is run from one side to the other as fast as I can in the hope that my futile effort can save the ship, but I can't and I can't save myself earlier.
I think it fair to say that after many years of help from my dear friend, my life companion, I am improved but still very f****d up

I tend to be very extreme in my attitudes to just about anything or anyone.
I find it hard to see the the so-called nuances of situations.
I hate people but I love humanity and I want to serve it in a positive way.
I am very emotional and have very sharp changes of attitude and mood.
People think I hate or disrespect them by my demeanor even I don't.
I tend to be very cynical about people and skeptical about any claims to knowledge that I personally cannot verify.
I trying to write about who and what I am and the kinds of experiences I've had with others and why.
I wish I learned that I had Asperger's much earlier in life so that I could be more like the younger people her.
I feel like an outsider wherever I go, but I shrink from contact with others other than superficial, perfunctory contact.
I always torn between two extremes.
I get lonely being all alone, a hermit, a solitary, and sometime something clicks inside of me and I seek out people even if I'm alone in a crowd, but when I get too close to people or they get to me I flee into myself into privacy and solitude.
When this happens I feel like I standing on a sinking ship. The only thing I know to do is run from one side to the other as fast as I can in the hope that my futile effort can save the ship, but I can't and I can't save myself earlier.
I think it fair to say that after many years of help from my dear friend, my life companion, I am improved but still very f****d up

why does this susrprise anyone on this board???

One of the traits that we are known for is our black/white thinking.

Personally, it is the thing I struggle with more than just about any other.

Black/white with very little anything in between will ALWAYS be my first choice in a questionairre.