Aspies write a heck of a lot.

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Yeah, our traits pretty much makes us prone to verbosity. My typing style is spontaneous, so there's really no telling whether I write a long or short post. Either way, it's pretty much rambling lol.

All cursive and no brakes?

I read them. And people seem to read the long posts on my blog, then many make long comments which I read unless I'm too tired then I just skim them to make sure they follow my comment policy.

I just had a long discussion about this with my mom, over Thanksgiving. She is willing to talk to me about AS and listen. She's always proud and supportive when she sees that I have recognised something I do that gives off the wrong signals and try to correct it. I talk too much, and I know it, and I have been making an effort to listen more and talk less. (I hate it when people monopolise a conversation with me, so I assume others must hate it when I do it to them.) One of the things I've done in regard to that is try to decide if a detail is important or not. If it is not important, I leave it out. It's one of the things that makes communication tricky -- I absolutely crave details myself, they make everything easier to understand. Therefore, I tend to give out details that others don't want, and choosing what's important and what's not can be tricky. (For example, when relating a funny story from a party, is it necessary to mention where the party was? Probably not, but I'm not sure!)

I have no one else to talk to, so I bottle it up all day?

I've read that it's common for those with AS to not know which information is important and which isn't, so they just end up giving all the information. This was definitely the case with me at school. I always ran out of space and had to write on the back of work sheets and the covers of my exercise books. My teachers would always often talk to me & comment in my exercise books about my lack of ability to summarise and for writing down "unnecessary details" that according to them, didn't have anything to do with the subject that I was supposed to be writing about. If I didn't write all of these details down it didn't seem complete. The other problem that I had was writing so many details that I would end up getting confused and not making much sense and/or putting them in the wrong order. I would concentrate more on getting all the details on the paper rather than actually how they sounded when they were put together and read. This caused me great problems doing things like book reviews.

In my years on various message boards, I've gone through a period where I produced 13,000 posts in 6 months without a single "+1" type empty response. Written books of poetry during a poetic phase, and currently have about 12,000 active posts between three message boards counting this one.


We love the internet because everyone is on our terms here, we're the socially blind kings in the land where social interaction is limited to text smileys and strong language.

then you are succinct, considering this fact.

I'm so verbose that I have a tendency to treat forum topics as writing prompts.

Loquacious is another term that fits even better! Dont stop talking!

Yup!
I think I'm trying to connect with people. I have so much inside my head, and I want to connect with others. That is why therapy is good. Someone is paid to listen to you waffle for a whole hour!

I agree totally about the importance of details! I HATE it when people don't give enough details. Good examples: Multiple-choice questions on quizzes, tests, and forms; directions when traveling; instructions on what to do, etc.

My motto is, "When in doubt, don't leave it out!"

Who is paying for your "therapy"?... taxpayers or does it come out of your own wallet from money you had to work for?

I've read that it's common for those with neurotypical brains to not know which information is important and which isn't, so they just end up omitting important details.

My parents pay for it. When I find a job (hopefully soon) I'll pay for it myself. My parents are happy to pay for it - it means they feel less guilty about not getting me diagnosed earlier, and it also means they don't have to listen to me

You've got it made!... not to mention your parents well trained.
If only I could train my husband the same way. He doesn't listen to me even though I orally explode with verbose chatter sometimes because of bottling things up too much.