I am not going to individually reply to all the pertinent items within this thread, but I will say in general that I am in agreement. I am also externally "well-adjusted" with a wife and a job, but I am seeking a diagnosis in a few weeks. I am very self aware and do not need the approval of a shrink to know who I am. However, it may be nice for personal and professional reasons to have an official piece of paper somewhere with a Dx in black and white.
Like others have mentioned, I am scheduled for two two-hour sessions about a week apart from each other. This seems like standard operating procedure. My last psychologist basically says Asperger's and such is a crock of s**t and that Autism only refers to "people rocking back and forth in a corner drooling and wetting themselves". This comes from the pragmatic and behaviorist bent of much of the modern mental health field. The idea is that therapy is simply to modify unwanted behavior to return a person to be a "functional member of society." Even more cynically stated, it is a tool to beat non-conformists into social lockstep.
I am interested in the neurological processes involved in Autism and related conditions; coping mechanisms, data processing, logic and theory of mind. The reality is that 99% of shrinks are unable and/or unwilling to touch that kind of stuff with a ten foot pole. Even if they were interested, the vast majority even of PhD and other Doctoral level shrinks are not remotely intelligent enough to scratch the surface of my inner workings. No fault to them. That's just how it is. Ultimately, the only person who can get inside your head is you.