How many people do you feel close to?

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Um...my three kids, one or two others...that's about it

~Kate

Compassion is the need to actively alleviate someone's pain.
Wikipedia says it is more vigorous than empathy, which I cannot manage.
It also says I should do to others what I would have them do to me which is nothing.
I do not like when someone goes and tries to console me.
I manage best on my own.
And others must, too.

@ursaminor how about trust? who do you trust? Wiki says trust is reliance on another person or entity. Having faith in others and believing them.

I would say my aunt, uncle, mother, sister, nephew.

Very, very few.

My Wife, Son, and Daughter, also our dog. Don't really have any close friends.

Oh geez your last bit is a lot similar to mine and yes I have trouble with this. Most of the people I use to be close to are dead now.

I talk too much with my mom and cats and even sometimes the people online but I usually come off rambling about stuff they're not interested in.

None.

I have 2 people in my life that I feel close to. One is a friend that I am somewhat close to and feel comfortable talking to. I think I would probably consider him more of a acquaintance than a friend. The other is my girlfriend and we are very close even though it is a very complicated relationship. I feel very comfortable talking to her but I am still distant. I have alot of trouble talking to her about my emotions and feelings. She gets very frustrated with me which makes me frustrated. After being together for 1.5 years I still dont talk about feelings too much. I would like to find a way for me to really open up to her because Im afraid that if I dont we are not going to last much longer.

Not that I appreciate your loneliness guys, but at least it's reassuring to see I'm not the only one who connects with a very few amount of people (and a bigger amount of animals!)

I'm no compassion genius either. My husband's sister died and I felt nothing. My husband was crying, it didn't make me feel bad, or sad, or anything near compassion. All my thoughts were going to "what am I supposed to do?". I wanted to know what I was supposed to say or do, but nothing came up, so I avoided the "it's gonna be ok" and likes of such, and left him alone until he calmed down. Ursaminor, like you, I like to be left alone in these bad circumstances and don't want people to sing me their it's all right tune. It sounds so fake anyway. Why should they care about my pain?
To answer your question jeffhermy, I trust my husband only, and myself.

millie, how I feel about people generally has nothing to do with them either. I have a "friend" who is a very very nice woman (wife of one of my husband's colleagues). She has invited me over on multiple occasions, we "hung out", went shopping (she shopped, I just stood there like an idiot), talked for hours (she talked, I tried to listen), but even though I tried hard to make her my one friend (since there's none at the mo), I just can't get myself to like her. On the other hand I have some pen pals that I think I like, but some of them have lied to me, made a fool of me, and yet I still like those people better than the nice woman I mentioned above. Weird. Other pals have sent me nice gifts, lots of them, but somehow I don't like them.

what is that supposed to mean?

I can't talk for Ursaminor but i suppose it means people would benefit from solving their problems on their own, you know, deal with your pain by yourself except of depending on other humans that may not be around.

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I don't really feel close to any human beings. My cat, dog and bearded dragon are my best friends. Humans are too lazy or simply don't care to take the time to try and understand me better.

because making fun of us is so much more fun :/

And I'm not lonely.

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and I like it that way!