Work issues and 'executive functions'
In my case I wrecked my health such that I wasn't able to continue on the track I was on. And those problems have persisted, and so a more balanced perspective went from optional to necessary.
My mantra prior to that was, "the only limit is being involuntarily unconscious. Anything short of that, you will keep going/pushing. There is no other limit." -- so I found out the hard way there are other limits. And then all the stuff about living a balanced life and questioning the surface value of things and such started to make sense.
I guess I'd say a burnout is someone who pushed until something broke, before they got to where they were trying to go. And saw things differently afterwards.
(There was thread here not too long ago about people burning-out or having 'breakdowns' which included weird cognitive losses and worsened ED.)
I think in the USA it's especially hard to avoid the pervasive myth that success is guaranteed if you just try hard enough, and conversly that the only reason anyone fails is because they didn't try hard enough. I basically sacrificed my health to that myth and it wouldn't been worth that even if I had 'made it.'
My mantra prior to that was, "the only limit is being involuntarily unconscious. Anything short of that, you will keep going/pushing. There is no other limit." -- so I found out the hard way there are other limits. And then all the stuff about living a balanced life and questioning the surface value of things and such started to make sense.
I guess I'd say a burnout is someone who pushed until something broke, before they got to where they were trying to go. And saw things differently afterwards.
(There was thread here not too long ago about people burning-out or having 'breakdowns' which included weird cognitive losses and worsened ED.)
I think in the USA it's especially hard to avoid the pervasive myth that success is guaranteed if you just try hard enough, and conversly that the only reason anyone fails is because they didn't try hard enough. I basically sacrificed my health to that myth and it wouldn't been worth that even if I had 'made it.'
I can very much identify with that.
My mantra prior to that was, "the only limit is being involuntarily unconscious. Anything short of that, you will keep going/pushing. There is no other limit." -- so I found out the hard way there are other limits. And then all the stuff about living a balanced life and questioning the surface value of things and such started to make sense.
I guess I'd say a burnout is someone who pushed until something broke, before they got to where they were trying to go. And saw things differently afterwards.
(There was thread here not too long ago about people burning-out or having 'breakdowns' which included weird cognitive losses and worsened ED.)
I think in the USA it's especially hard to avoid the pervasive myth that success is guaranteed if you just try hard enough, and conversly that the only reason anyone fails is because they didn't try hard enough. I basically sacrificed my health to that myth and it wouldn't been worth that even if I had 'made it.'
I can very much identify with that.
Yeah -- I'd bet there's a lot people of the spectrum with stories like these. Especially the older pre-diagnosis generations.
This is such a timely topic for me! I just lost another "friend" due to his frustration and anger that I "don't live up to my potential." He seems to think that if I just tried harder I wouldn't be autistic! Although I have refered him to educational sources about Aspergers.... This is such a theme in my life that people critisize me endlessly for not being as "successful" as THEY think I SHOULD be. Generally my response was to work harder, like the 20 hour days 7 days a week, going without sleep and food, trying to make others happy. I'm so glad I no longer feel the need to give a s*** about what others think of me. I have almost no friends and I spend a lot of time with my animals. I avoid meeting new people or talking more than is necessary.
I'm thinking of changing my look to be more weird so people will be more likely to expect little of me.
Frankly, I find this notion frightening, and demoralizing. But, like so many other things, I'm sure it can be adjusted for, with forethought, diligence, and good habits, and can effectively combated.
I wonder if anyone has suggestions for reading on this topic more in-depth?
I just finished reading a book I bought on Tuesday called, "ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life" by Judith Kolgerg & Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D.
I have read dozens upon dozens of books and articles about issues surrounding executive dysfuction (not realizing until recently that's what it was), it was always about being unfocused due to overstimulation, or being too hyper-focused on detail to the detriment of getting the job done in time, disorganized, overwhelmed, distractible, hypersensitivity to the environment, not setting priorities etc. etc. Not one of them has helped me to function in this area, because they were ALL written for Neurotypicals.
This book is the first time in my life that I have read actual good, practical advice that can help me. It gives many examples of what to do when you get in a position of executive dysfunction and they are qualitatively different than what every NT says to do! The examples are amazing. It's the first time in my life I've read examples where I could say, "That's me." and "this will actually work for me!"
I recommend the book very highly to anyone dealing with this life, work and relationship -affecting issue.
Amazon page with book reviews:
http://www.amazon.ca/ADD-Friendly-Ways- ... 1583913580
For example, here's one awesome suggestion they give in one chapter on time.
http://www.timetimer.com/
The time timer is a visual timer and helps for when you need to set a time limit so you don't lose track of time or when you need to break down tasks into increments due to overwhelm. The problem with normal timers is the noise, but most of all, what we need is a visual stimulus to realize the passage of time because our sense of time is not innate. We can jump from one thought or task to the next without realizing the passing of time or get lost in hyperfocus. Digital time is useless for us. We need to see it visually passing.
http://www.timetimer.com/
The time timer is a visual timer and helps for when you need to set a time limit so you don't lose track of time or when you need to break down tasks into increments due to overwhelm. The problem with normal timers is the noise, but most of all, what we need is a visual stimulus to realize the passage of time because our sense of time is not innate. We can jump from one thought or task to the next without realizing the passing of time or get lost in hyperfocus. Digital time is useless for us. We need to see it visually passing.
Interesting -- I've always preferred analog clocks & watches for exactly that reason. I also never found ADHD advice too helpful, and books about mild TBI's only covered basic things I'd already figured out. Looks like I'll have to check that book out as well.
Thank you very much, Crocus.
You're welcome
I've always preferred analog clocks as well. They are one of my interests. I never wear a watch though, because they bug me around my wrist. I didn't even think to check for ADD (or ADHD) advice before. I was in the book store looking for books on asperger's and the only few books I could find were mostly on autism with a couple on asperger's and they were all in the parenting section. Yeah, that did me a lot of good ::sarcasm:: It was huge book store too. I could order a few I found online, but I wanted something now. Anyway, I was browsing through the general health and disabilties section and thought there might be something on asperger's when I saw this book on ADD and started reading it.
I was actually shocked at how bang on it was for the problems I've had all of my life with executive dysfunction and the authors call it that in the book too. All of the dysfunction issues that they address are ones that I have, with the exception of clutter, which I abhor. The only time I encounter dysfunctional reaction to that is when I have to move and I'm overwhelmed with the amount of things to pack and unpack. Otherwise, when it comes to objects in my environment, I am highly organized.
Some of the topics dealt with include: stimulation distraction; internal mind distractions; losing yourself in hyperfocus; overdoing or over-researching things because you get lost in it; overwhelm; time distortion and functioning; prioritizing and scheduling. blocking things out, etc.
Here's an excerpt quote from one of the many things that I found perfect to help for me:
Good time management involves not only focusing on tasks, but also scheduling breaks. Lack of task completion is a chronic problem for many adults with ADD. Typically, they work full steam ahead until they can work no longer. If the task is not yet completeed, they may become dristracted and have difficulty coming back to the task. Taking breaks to refresh your energy and concentration is an effective way to increase your chances of completing your task.
However, your "fifteen minute break" may stretch foar beyond its allotted time, and you many become distracted by another activity, never returning to your original task. "I'll sit down to balance my checkbook, need a break, stand up, walk ainside, and next thing I know, I'm doing the laundry!" says Phyllis.
Try taking green breaks instead. A green break is a way of refreshing the brain that is brief but effective. It can be done as often as needed but won't take you far from your task. To take a green break:
1. Stand up facing something green. (A tree, a lawn, a leafy plant on a deck, or even a poster of a green pasture will do.)
2. Focus on the greenery.
3. Breathe in slowly. Feel your chest rise.
4. Exhale slowly. Let the air escape fully.
5. Breathe in again, this time bringing your arms up over your head, then lower them as you breathe out.
6. Now, drink a glass of water.
7. Finally, rock slowly from side to side.
8. Begin working again.
The color green, especially in nature, is calming. Rocking and raising your arms is relaxing, the water replenishes you and the increased oxygen and deep breathing will make you more alert. A green break is ADD-friendly because it refreshes you. allowing you to benenefit froma break without allowing you to become dristracted by other things.
quoted from source: "ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life" by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D. (Routledge; 2002)
Personally, I found this advice incredibly helpful and right on target. My mind is often wandering off on a million tangents or I can get too into one aspect of something. This is a grounding tool that I think will work wonders.
OP, this is my biggest problem! It relates to many things - not just physical job such as reorganizing a space or moving, but also large school or work assignments I have encountered. I used to put off starting because I would become frozen and my anxiety would become too high to even think about the task. Now, as others have mentioned here, I break the task down into little parts. For me though the key is to start the first step and literally forget all about the rest of the task until the part I'm working on is complete. I am still unable to begin unless I put the other steps completely out of my mind.
This is quite different from procrastination or laziness in my opinion because I desperately want to start and get it down but I just don't know how to conceptualize the whole task at once and it causes extreme anxiety.
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