Which of the following assumptions annoys you more?

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lol...ya, my parents hate labels lol...maybe becoz they're ashamed of it. they keep saying that they're not, but they totally are!! !

Mum: you're just stressing out in life, it's not some depression or anxiety disorder
Dad: you're just a naughty kid, there's no need to name it "ADHD"
Mum: you don't need those medication, just cope with it!
Dad: it's not that we don't accept you have AS, we're just worried that the diagnosis might be wrong, and you might be recieving the wrong treatment. we're just worried about you that's all!
Mum: ya, we just want you to be happy.

let me laugh at it
ironically enough, dad's a doctor.
i guess it's hard for my "very proud" parents to accept that their supposedly "perfect" first child isn't that perfect at all

I was always told that not listning to people would get me in trouble in the long run...Wrong! If I was the type to listen to people and actualy give a damb, I would have been in trouble.

the 2nd one i hate it

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My aspie thought he could not be in a long-term relationship with anyone because of "what was wrong with him."

Talk about your self-fulfilling prophecies.

That's the one.

Judgmental people are losers, and there's nothing we can do about it. It's not what they say, it's how they say it and what they're doing to your self esteem by their self-serving, narrow-minded mentality.

I probably dislike it the most, when someone immediately assumes I'm Gay, rather than to assume nothing, when I might act differently from some other "normal, mainstream" guys. Of course I've turned that one around to my own benefit, as I have many good, long-time friends who are Gay, and who would probably not have trusted me to be a friend, had I come across as NT. I have nothing against people thinking I'm Gay when it doesn't have any bearing on whatever the situation is; it's just that when an incorrect assumption is made, it can cause all kinds of misunderstandings. Analogy: If I'm driving around town in a truck that looks like a Ford to some people, I'd rather they didn't just go around bugling that "Charles likes Fords", when maybe it's NOT really a Ford, and maybe it's even a borrowed truck. So if I said I was thinking about buying another truck, I'd hate it if everyone showed me deals on Fords...... It's an extra step to have to go over when meeting girls/women, if they were told by others that you're Gay. It's nice to have good, honest friends, Gay or straight, but I wish I didn't have to make myself clear on my orientation at the beginning of any relationship; friendly or dating. I assume the same if the shoe is on the other foot.

Charles

I sincerely hope you're correct....I'd love to see judgemental people losing heavily - ideally I'd love to see them being excluded and marginalised by the same methods they've used on their victims. But I have a horrible suspicion that they may be the winners as a rule - they seem to be rather well-tolerated by society in general, so maybe putting down anybody different really works for those who are rotten enough to do it. They say that nice guys always come last. I don't want that crap in my world so I stick to nonjudgementals and shun the rest. Friendly, caring people are brilliant, I love them to bits I'm a different guy when I'm with people like that.

This! And so I say the second option, coming from the self-diagnosed camp. I'm seriously considering getting myself to my doctor and asking him what he thinks. But I'm afraid to because what if he says no ("because you do X, Y, and Z")? Then it's all over.

This one, definitely. Though I do find both assumptions to be quite annoying.

I still struggle with this sometimes, in regards to my own behaviour and current capabilities.

I do not accept "can't" readily.

ruveyn