Does being touched when you don't want it upset you?

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Thanks for all your replies.

It's been a few days now and I'm still feeling yucky about it. The hug she gave me was a full on bear hug. From a colleague. It was not necessary and was completely uncalled for. I just hope I can shake off the feeling soon. And, I hope the next time she comes in for a hug I'll be able to stand up for myself and say no. That's one of my worst things, that I am too agreeable and I let people walk all over me......and then it upsets me later.

Depends on who it is and where I'm being touched.

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I don't dislike it because it's painful, it's more that it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don't know how to react if it's something friendly. If I'm on the train or other public transit and someone near me touches me it drives me nuts, infuriates me. Just a bit earlier, on my way in to work, this lady sat next to me on the train and her leg was up against mine the entire ride. I nearly stood up and moved but the car was very crowded.

The feeling of being touched does stick with me for a while after it's happened.

When it's unexpected, friendly touch especially I feel the touch for minutes+ after it's happened. For example, recently I stood up to let a coworker sit down though he told me not to, so he grabbed my shoulder and pushed me back into the chair. For at least 30 minutes afterward I could feel the pressure of his grasp on my shoulder. People don't often touch me (in a friendly way) and it sticks with me.

Had a situation today that made me think about this thread.

I volunteer at an institute for mentally handicapped people, the majority has down syndrome but there are also some stroke patients etc.
A lot of these clients are touchy feely - in need of physical contact. I allow it because well, I AM volunteering and the clients just need it, but I draw the line at hugging. Pecks on the cheek and a hand on the shoulder etc. are ok. Hugging is just too much.

Luckily they don't get offended fast.

Touching is an issue to me as well ! I cant tolerant hugging, kissing on the chicks, touching my face and especially my back . Unexpected touching is my worst experiences cause of my natural body reaction ,i just kick back like i m scared . I fell ashamed of it after it happen but i just cant handle it its to painful and itchy ,. There are only 2 people that i can handle them touching me without being afraid or in pain and its because i know them many years and i love them but still i have a problem when its unexpected

Yes, being touched when I don't want to be touched upsets me. I don't let it show, though. I kindly tell the person not to touch me again.

If a stranger does it, I feel a tingling in the area, and up in my skull for several minutes. The softer they do it, the more it annoyes me. I would go insane if that lasted all day! There's also a certain form of gentle petting I'm quietly haveing a hard time dealing with, because it makes it very hard to focus. It makes me twitch like you were dragging thorns across my back.

I don't mind being touched. It's never bothered me, and to be quite honest, I've never thought about it really.

I don't really ever not want to be touched... I don't really think about it, to be honest.

Whenever I do get touched, unexpectedly, I feel warm and snuggly, which seems to be the exact opposite of the usual expected trait. I think because I want to feel a true connection with people so much, that acting it out from my end doesn't do anything... I need reciprocation and even unexpected attention altogether. As a result, I drink it all in. It can even make me cry sometimes for some reason.

Absolutely i hate being touched. it's like the contact is 'greater' than actually is. If someone touch my shoulder i fell contact even on my upper arm and my neck. rarely i allow someone to touch me.

I don't like it. But I prefer to be touched by anyone than to have a fruit fly landing on my arm every 2 seconds, or having my hair in my face. I hate long hair for that reason.

I am bothered by most kinds of touch, from most people. I would be very upset if someone was hugging me at work, but I would not be able to say anything. I might mention it in conversation, if the topic of her hugging was being discussed. But I couldn't come right out and say it at the time of the hug. I am more bothered by touch by females than males, and that has pretty much always been the case.