DandelionFireworks wrote:
Janissy, I have trouble socializing with NTs. It's functionally not distinct when most everyone you meet is NT, but it's an important semantic distinction to make because I'm tired of the double standard. You say something, I think you mean something you didn't mean, it's my fault for having trouble perceiving social cues. I say something, you think I mean something I didn't mean, it's my fault for having trouble producing social cues.
I'm about as proficient socializing with other non-NTs as NTs are at socializing with each other. I even went to an incredibly geeky party once. (There were probably plenty of NTs, but they're the sort of NTs who have no social life and share one of my special interests.)
It's rather like putting a hundred people in a room, ninety-nine of whom speak English and one of whom speaks Japanese. The Japanese person isn't "bad at communicating," and if you had some more Japanese people, they would talk to each other just as well as the English-speakers. It's an important distinction to make for deep discussions on the matter of how valuable we are as people. It's not so important in day-to-day life.
(And yeah, it's weird that they would think we don't feel fear. They've never noticed that little voice in the back of my head screaming RUN RUN AWAY YOU'RE IN DANGER!!, though to be fair, I don't show fear. It's enough to make me feel like a prey animal, except I pace more like a lion than a mouse. ...Though it's definitely enough to make me think twice about adding "we're not human" to the list.)
Ok. Now I see what you mean. Thanks for clearing that up.