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yeah, sadly it is the societal expectation. Funny story this is though.

Back during senior year a new girl enrolls at the school and takes a liking to me, similar interests in anime and all that as well. She was also cute as hell and a year below me. I ended up thinking she was not on the spectrum just like everyone else in the High school I went to at first. No one else really talked to her and she always kept to herself. (At the time she seemed like someone who really didnt listen to half the stuff I listen to.) For some reason though she would always look me in the eyes for a second or so every time it was possible, but she never did it with anyone else.

Then came the halloween party when she ended up dressing up as naruto. I ended up laughing to hell and quoted something that kakashi said loud enough for her to hear me, which I didnt mean to happen. (yes, I used to watch it, no I only care for the manga, and I think I quoted one of Kakashi's line regarding naruto's sexy no jutsu) Well, after that it seemed she payed even more attention to me, even though she still was quite as hell, but after that she would audibly giggle a bit around me. She also would look me in the eyes even more so and for longer, and me being me got weirded out because I just dont like eye to eye contact much.

And yeah, ill admit, CUTE >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> SEXY

Exactly. For me it's like an intrusion but instead of into my house, into my mind.

I don't know. Unless I know the person well enough, eye contact is just something that makes me feel massively uncomfortable. In order to do it, I sometimes have to concentrate, it doesn't always come naturally to me.

For me, it's a mix of things. The stimuli is a major thing. I worry about staring at who I am talking to because it tends to scare them. It helps me and has always helped to either look to the side or not directly at them.

On a more cosmetic note, I also am sensitive about my lazy eye. I don't want to freak anyone out with it and I have learned to pay more attention to the information in my good eye to see who I am talking to, otherwise I'd be talking to air.

Same. during my diagnosis, my psychologist said that my eye contact was 'good.' I'd be surprised if it was normal, but I don't find it much of a problem looking people in the eye. Someone who knows me well would probably testify that my eye contact is a little bit odd, but I find that being in a small space with lots of people is waaay more uncomfortable than looking a person in the eye while talking to them. In fact, I find making conversation a lot harder than making eye contact.

Humams are the only species that does not interpret eye contact as a threat. It's a threat interpretion.

I just feel like I get a chill down my spine when I make eye contact, unless I know them well enough.

The eyes are the windows to the soul, and it's so much easier to be robbed when nobody's home, so why advertise the fact?

But really... I'm not sure why I have such a problem with it. It's just uncomfortable... Is it because I'm afraid that someone will see something in my eyes that I don't want them to know about me? Well... that thought crosses my mind nearly first off whenever I think about the question, but I think it's more unconscious, more primal. If the process will make me think more than I have to, it makes sense that my body would react in such a way to discourage me from doing it. I can't see any other physiological reason why my body would try to make me not do it.... So it has to have something to do with that. I think too much as it is.... Or perhaps because experience has shown me that I 'm not good at reading eyes during eye contact (whether that assumption is correct or not is irrelevant) maybe I feel I have to look away rather than observe info that I have perceived as leading me astray too often.

Or maybe I can see how empty people really are, and it bothers me looking into that empty hole and seeing the truth about human nature, knowing full well that that emptiness reflects equally back upon myself.

I nerver like looking at people in the eye it freak me out

i would like to no why and what it main prolim is do we all have slim prolims and are they all the same reasion!!

yer im like that, but im mildly dispraxic so it cud b that, im not sure. if my mums haivn a go at me i look away or something n shes like ' im here look at me' n i just get uncomfortable n self conscious.

Because eye contact in every species except humans is interpreted as a threat. It's because autistic people feel threatned.