Were you badly bullied by non-family-members?

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Almost all of you are adults now, don't have to worry about the past bullies anymore. You all only have to think of your future goals from now on. In fact, most of such bullies end up as failures, drunkards and losers.

Bullied through out so far by everyone including familly members.

You should try standing up against how you family treated you. I have been, not exactly to say bullied but taken advantage of by my brothers and sister too, I'm the youngest. They seldom talk to me, of course because of my asperger, but then, they should take the initiative to talk to me like how they talk to each other, and even teach me when they see I made any small mistakes so I can improve and grow. By not talking to me, and I have little chance to talk to outsiders, don't you think it only makes me unable to learn and improve?
So at this time, you must tell them to treat you like how they treat other people, if they as a family would say they love you.

Who needs to worry about past bullies? It's the consequences of bullying that stick around - depression, PTSD, anxiety.

Also: http://www.suicide.org/study-on-bullyin ... icide.html

I endured the worse bullying in Catholic School (grades 7th and 8th) and college. I guess I could add 6th grade in their too but I was so prepared to be bullied in an environment like that (it was an old urban city school where fights broke out every day and things got stolen from me occasionally) that it didn't really count to me. The worse bullying I received from some really harrasive boys in Catholic School, a couple of college roommates, and an ex boyfriend.

I do get bullied by family members sometimes. My dad tends to insult and demean me these days for being unemployed just like him. My mom will hit me sometimes. That's it really.

I'm not sure how to vote. The only bullying I experienced was from my parents, or my teachers, never from my peers. Not sure if that would count as throughout life.

I was bullied through out school and by local neighbourhood kids, it was pretty well non stop. In high school classmates decided to not talk to me at all for a period of 3-4 weeks, everyone in the class, totally shunned. My mom didn't know what to do as we didn't know why it was happening. But finally the ring leader, someone I though was a friend humiliated me outside the school gates with everyone present, she was laughing and saying how she had just wanted to have fun with me. She threatened the whole class that she would do the same to them if they talked to me! I felt like the worst person and wanted to kill myself as I thought I had done something terrible to hurt someone. Luckily my mom helped me get through it. Everything else was more routine stuff, being hit having stuff thrown at me and being spat on.

Both my kids son AS, daughter with other issues have been bullied each year in school. I started home schooling them 3 years ago and at least now we can focus on their learning dificulties and not worry about other stuff. Both have been bullied outside though and we have worked our way through issues as they come up. My son has been bullied quite a bit on the Internet but now he focuses on his older Internet friends who share his interests.

Since your mum and dad knows you have asperger, they should be supportive to you, not bullying you. Why don't you tell your teacher or the Dr. who diagnosed you as having asperger about it.

Did you try getting a job? When I was young, I didn't know I have asperger, maybe because of this, whatever job I can get, I just go for it. One time I was employed as an office boy, but I was able to create a simple system for them to search for names, groups and code numbers easily. I was given 3 increments in first year! Aspies have talents, I'm sure you can find yours later.

That's the solution. I have been bullied as an adult partly because of having only AS but mainly due to me being hyperactive, I have ADHD and habit of throwing comments at others and I'm also egotistic. If you make fun of others, as I used to do. and do not know what I call local language skills, which I describe on a thread whose link one can see in my signatures, and also don't understand mind reading, which I understood almost completely just a month ago, which I would be posting about, then NTs can make life hell for you. I saw an aspie with severe asperger's who was Phd student at an institute and no one bullied him and thereby making life difficult for him. I think NTs generally don't harm soft aspies but aspies like me are actually a trouble. One of the main reasons I couldn't fight back was me being weak and an year ago I took up body building.
There is a very simple reason about why people with asperger's should have a body of a bodybuilder. If you cannot read mind and also do not know what I call local language skills then you will annoy people and they will physically and socially harm you.
This advise does not sound academic, therefore we should not expect simon baron-cohen or tony attwood giving it. I have nothing against these people. They are expert in this field. I note that aspie guy has mentioned in another post about the importance of body building for people with asperger's. Kudos to him.

Well, bullies don't end up being miserable. It is a myth.

Go for some kind of karate would also be good. It may increase your confidence.

Well, karate or other martial arts, in my opinion krav maga(Israeli martial art) would be best, may boost your confidence but aspie's main objective should be to scare people out of fight and not to fight and then get into social and legal trouble and then get harmed because of having a social mind of a two year old or less. No one will side with a toddler that we are even if our case is justified.
See this link to know that socially we are below two year old.
http://www.naturalchild.org/research/ages_stages.html

I had teachers in the Catholic Schools who were fully aware of the bullying (and some who were even present for it) but they for the most part made lazy excuses as to why they couldn't get involved. My homeroom teacher who was fully aware that the science partner I would be stuck with for the entire year was my worse bully and when I try to request a change in partners the teacher claimed that there was nothing she could do...which is a bunch of bull. It's not like she had to sign a dozen different papers or completely rearrange the whole order of the science partners. All she had to do was make two people in the class switch partners...that's it! The only theory I could come up with for this is that the teacher thought that my partner and I would eventually be forced to get along, which never happened either. He was completely abusive to me (verbally not physically) to the point that it would scar me for life.

As for my family, they bully me the way they do because it's their conservative nature. They were spankers who believe that children can be cured of their problems if disciplined hard enough. As for the doctor, I wasn't tested/diagnosed with Asperger's until a month and a half before I was set to graduate from high school. So it was far too late for them to be of any help in my difficult childhood. And even then I had problems communicating with them properly.

Sounds like you're still studying? If your teachers are all so not bothered type, so are your parents, then it's quite hard to do anything. Why not try talking to any friends, relatives or some kind of social service people and try to get some help like talking to the teachers for you. You must do something to get help or else you'd be stuck like this for a long time. It may affect your studies.

As for your parents, why do they say they need to spank you to DISCIPLINE? Did you do anything wrong? If you think you did, try to be a better person, for whatever it may be, in order just to please your parents and avoid their violence towards you.

After your studies, get a job, get a really caring, understanding boyfriend and who really loves you, (not type that would only love you for your sex but not really love you type) and move out.