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18 Sep 2010, 4:24 pm

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I didn't think I'd care, but as it turns out I do care when people make a lot of assumptions about my beliefs based on the few things I've said. :?

I do care, when what they think is followed by rudeness, ostracizing, or mean behavior. For instance, I used to hang out with this woman who had alopecia, so she always wore hats. She also walked funny, because of pain issues in her feet. Her overall appearance led people to conclude that she was gay, for some reason. So, when we went places together, homophobes were rude to us. Since neither of us were gay, it was very distressing. I hated having these assumptions made about me, especially since they weren't even true, and then being treated rudely for them!


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18 Sep 2010, 9:39 pm

Okay something freaky is going on here. What was that weird error message about? My comment double posted and so I deleted one of them. :?:


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18 Sep 2010, 9:41 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
menintights wrote:
I didn't think I'd care, but as it turns out I do care when people make a lot of assumptions about my beliefs based on the few things I've said. :?

I do care, when what they think is followed by rudeness, ostracizing, or mean behavior. For instance, I used to hang out with this woman who had alopecia, so she always wore hats. She also walked funny, because of pain issues in her feet. Her overall appearance led people to conclude that she was gay, for some reason. So, when we went places together, homophobes were rude to us. Since neither of us were gay, it was very distressing. I hated having these assumptions made about me, especially since they weren't even true, and then being treated rudely for them!


What is the matter with people who think they have to act like that to someone they don't even know, that's so messed up!


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19 Sep 2010, 4:49 pm

It depends, if they think of me weirdly but are still nice to me then I don't care. If they're mean to me, then I might get concerned.


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19 Sep 2010, 5:10 pm

Taupey wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
menintights wrote:
I didn't think I'd care, but as it turns out I do care when people make a lot of assumptions about my beliefs based on the few things I've said. :?

I do care, when what they think is followed by rudeness, ostracizing, or mean behavior. For instance, I used to hang out with this woman who had alopecia, so she always wore hats. She also walked funny, because of pain issues in her feet. Her overall appearance led people to conclude that she was gay, for some reason. So, when we went places together, homophobes were rude to us. Since neither of us were gay, it was very distressing. I hated having these assumptions made about me, especially since they weren't even true, and then being treated rudely for them!


What is the matter with people who think they have to act like that to someone they don't even know, that's so messed up!


I agree!


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19 Sep 2010, 6:56 pm

Of course, I don't exist in a vacuum.


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19 Sep 2010, 8:07 pm

Moog wrote:
Of course, I don't exist in a vacuum.


For real, I mean it's dusty in there. :P



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19 Sep 2010, 8:52 pm

No, another person's opinion is subjective and biased at best, and as a rule that way, holds little value regarding any particular "opinion" they may hold about me. When people are judgmental, arrogant and express superiority. I can't let their ignorance bother me.



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19 Sep 2010, 8:58 pm

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It depends. For example, I don't care what people think of my face, which is covered in scabs and scars from acne. But I do care about what people think of my imagination, which is why I only talk about it with a select few people in real life (or online, where I can be anonymous about it).


Interesting.

We all seem to have at least ONE thing that we care that Neurotypicals think about. Ironically, it also seems to be somehow related to Neurotypical bullying(The person posting about clothes due to being bullied in her earlier years from clothes)

In my case, my two problems(problem now) were being skrawny and being under-employed.

Ironically, I was made fun of for being scrawny growing up and being stupid. So, now I just want a decent job(I worked out and overcame my scrawny problem) and then just to enjoy my life



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19 Sep 2010, 8:59 pm

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I think that's normal for everyone to a degree. It depends. I don't care if people look down on me because I drive an old beat up car but many people would. I do care that people see me as a good mother. It depends on what's important to you.


Let me guess. Someone in your younger years said "You would make a crappy mom and aspergers people shouldn't reproduce."

Edit: I'm not saying bullying is the reason for all of us carrying what Neurotypicals think. However, it does seem to be a MAJOR contributor



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19 Sep 2010, 9:04 pm

I always knew something was not quite right... people felt free to tell me so. Now that I KNOW something's wrong I feel very self-conscious. Is that normal-ish?

I know it's nothing to be ashamed of, too, but now that I am so definitely aspie, I feel a bit embarrassed.

Does this change? I hope so.



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19 Sep 2010, 9:05 pm

ApsieGuy wrote:
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I think that's normal for everyone to a degree. It depends. I don't care if people look down on me because I drive an old beat up car but many people would. I do care that people see me as a good mother. It depends on what's important to you.


Let me guess. Someone in your younger years said "You would make a crappy mom and aspergers people shouldn't reproduce."


No :) No one ever said that to me. Although I will say someone's idea of a good mother may be of little consequence to me.



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19 Sep 2010, 9:14 pm

I think it changes. When I became happy with my life and myself, I stopped caring about such matters and began enjoying my life instead.