Meltdowns about things other than sensory overload?

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My main one is when things aren't fair, especially if I can't change it. It mainly happens at home, when I'm accused of something I didn't do, or when my brother winds me up by teasing me/laughing at me and I react, then my parents blame me. I hate it; I feel so babyish for overreacting but I can't control it at the time and feel so exhausted afterwards I can't explain it so my mum just tells me to grow up and 'get with the real world' which usually makes it worse .

The last meltdown I had was because I couldn't find a restaurant i was supposed to meet some people at. This was after a bike club ride that was out of town. I was following someone elses car, but they sped off. I don't have anyones phone number. They had told me how to get there. (verbal directions) but I couldn't find it. I kept driving and driving, turned around a few times. I got more and more upset, and finally pulled over. I was so angry at myself for not being able to follow such simple directions. I would have just gone home, but I had just told them I would meet them there. I'm very upset by this point. I calm down a little and decide to head home, When I get home I have a messages from one of the people I was supposed to meet, wondering what happened, that they missed me at lunch. I finally email him back, saying I couldn't find it, and didn't have his number. He sends me his number.
I'm trying to figure out ways to be able to deal with things better so I decided in the future, that anytime I am out of town, I will carry the GPS in my car. I didn't take it since I was only 40 miles outside of my town, and I know the way. I am getting phone numbers from the people in my bike club. This way maybe next time I can avoid having a breakdown.

Joe, I have mini meltdowns when people shush me sometimes. It depends on who it is for one thing. I also have meltdowns when people say yell at me for being loud. This one lady at my school shouted "EXCUSE ME, YOU ARE BEING VERY LOUD!". I went into a complete meltdown.

My triggers are:

People making rude comments
People starring at me
People making fun of me in a mean way
People offering solutions that I don't like
People thinking that beliefs are somehow "bad" (I don't mind when they disagree with them, but if they think there is something wrong with them, that bothers me)
People forcing me to do something that I really don't want to
People assuming things about me

This was my last meltdown:

Today in Science, I wanted to leave the classroom while they marked an assignment that wasn't required and I didn't do. She said I couldn't because she didn't want to sit in a classroom all by herself. So, I went to talk to the teacher who was the head of the department about this issue. I told her I was going to do that and she said "Oh, there is someone meeting with him right now" (Which happens almost 80% of the time I go in there, so it's not a big deal) but she acted like it was and it would a problem for me. This was just a mini one.

I hate being told to shush when I'm just trying to be social. It knocks me social confidence back. Like once back when I was at school, I walked into a room with a couple of mates, talking loud (which is unusual for me, and I was doing a great job because my mates were listening and I felt like a NT), and then a teacher said, ''Josie, there are exams going on next door, so can you be quiet?'' And I just felt like a twat after that. My friends didn't really take notice, but I still felt embarrassed. Trust me to be socially confident at the wrong time?!

Social meltdowns can be an issues for me. Just recently I was hanging out at a friends house when I got in a fight with another person there. I was so scared of having to deal with them that I went into meltdown mode because even the thought of being near them stressed me beyond belief. I wouldn't leave the room I was in because I was scared that if I did leave it I would see them.

Edit: Shushing is an issue for me too. I hate being told that I'm doing something wrong and get really upset because I push myself to be so perfect. Any little slip up, particularly being told to be quiet, can make me cry. Perhaps not a full meltdown, but I'm moody and hurt for several hours after being corrected for anything.

Technology causes everyone to have meltdowns. I've seen a few NTs in my life who have gone absolutely bezerk because the signal kept cutting off on the telly or the internet.

People attacking me. Too many people talking to me and confusing me, especially because I never understand what they're talking about. I get so worked up and overwhelmed. Then they think there is something wrong with me. That just makes me feel even worse.

Scanner, you just reminded me of something that REALLY bothers me! It doesn't cause meltdowns though, but almost. 2 people talking to me at the same time! Sometimes, the teacher will be trying to teach a lesson to the class, and my "helper" will talk to me! It's annoying! I also really hate it when I am on phone and people are trying to tell me what to say!

I hate being told to shush, it just makes me angry and upset, like I'm not being treated like an adult.

I actually managed to lose a friendship by stopping to talk to someone who had rather nastily tried to shush me when I was quietly talking with someone else across the room? And I took the time to ask him if he could find another way to ask if the noise is bothering him and he totally totally lost it.

I get emotional meltdowns. One thing can start me (like in one case someone trying to lie openly and publicly about some of my friends and I), and then my tolerance for frustration drops, and every little thing reduces further tolerance and increases frustration. The one I mention above? Within a few hours things that had absolutely nothing to do with me were making me even angrier and the only thing I could do was let it out somehow (which I did, on the internet rather than anywhere in real life) and left my brain feeling weird and sluggish for about a day afterward.

I am not sure what all my triggers are. One was set off by not having any room to put things and having a stack of gifts that I didn't really care about or know what to do with, which was not my finest moment.

I do get information overload, as well, especially when the information is poorly conveyed/too much, and I can't put it to the use I intended (like really bad tutorials, but even good tutorials can push me toward or over the edge).

This is sensory and emotional both: Right now, where I live, there's constant yelling, arguing, loud children happening right next to my bedroom and 3-6 people who seem to always want me to talk to them when I come out to get food or whatever, so I don't have a lot of options to escape it and I seem to be getting something every day, although it usually just brings me to tears rather than anger, and trying to block out the noise for as long as I can.

Thinking about this now, it happens a lot more often than I thought. Score one against self-awareness.

I know this sounds really mean and selfish, but I can't seem to have meltdowns when I'm on my own, or with friends, or out in public, or at work. I only can have a meltdown with relatives around.