Something people often say to you

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Oooo, I know these questions too, but the opposite!

You have so lovely hair!
Can I touch it?
Is it naturally so straight and glossy?
Which shampoo do you use?
Your hair looks like a wig!

Wow! So many people have been told that they look sad!

I've been told that I look sad so many times by total strangers that I get hostyle towards them when this happens.

Here's a few more:

"why are you getting up???" when I start talking in the middle of a movie because something made me think of something else and I start kind of giving a speech about it and feel the need to get up

"move please, I can't see anything" sometimes this follows the first one if I didn't pay attention and moved in front of the tv

"ohhh no not again!" after I say "I have an idea!" (somewhat often) or start again on the same subject as the day before and the day before that ... etc, or if I interrupt a movie again (I know I know it is very annoying and I am trying really hard to get better about this)

"are you sure you're ok?" after I hurt myself either by falling or running into something (which happens somewhat often)

"quit thinking while I talk" and "you don't listen!"

Every once in a while someone tells me "thank you". A lot of times I get told to "stop being silly" because I have an offbeat sense of humor. There's the old standby "how are you?". At one time I got told to smile when I looked depressed. Then, there's the really insulting stuff I don't want to put here. It's a mixed bag of responses.

Lets see.

-People would like you more if you smiled once in awhile
-Your really f'd up
-I do not believe you said that
-Your either really smart or really stupid
-With a smile and nice haircut you can go pretty far in life
-Oh, there just teasing you they don't mean a thing about it (Thanks MoM)
-There just jealous of you (Thanks MoM)
-What are you doing dude, that chick really liked you
-I do not believe you told him that
-I doubt your autistic you do not beat yourself in the head or scream when someone touches you
-I bet you got good grades in school
-You do not look like your in your 40's
-Are you drunk
-If you keep pacing around like that people will think your a mental patient
-Why don't you drive
-How can you eat the same thing everyday
-I know your mother, she said you were a little bit weird I guess she was right (Said to me 2 times by my moms friends)
-Were you molested as a child? (Someone reacting to me telling them to stop touching me)
-Were you shaked as a child
-Aren't autistic people ret*d, you seemed too smart to be ret*d
-My kid's ret*d and he was in special classes (Said to me by a co-worker with a son who has downsyndrome)
-Fat, dumb, and mean is no way to go through life (Said to me by my co-workers mocking the line from Animal House)
-I know this girl who would date you she's got (place random disability here)
-Everyone else can do it with no problems why can't you
-Are you trying to drive me crazy (Said to me by my parents almost one or twice a month)
-You hid it well
-You know your killing your parents by not giving them grandkids, you should be ashamed of yourself
-You don't look 40 (One good one out of the bunch)

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"Why do you have to be so stubborn?"

"Are you slow or something, is that your problem?"

"Your just plain weird and all."

"Why are you not like everyone else?"

People make a lot of comments regarding how little I talk:
"You are really loud as usually" (sarcasm).
Or if someone asks people to be quiet, someone will jokingly utter "That will be really hard for Amik" or "Yeah Amik, try to be quiet!"
"By all means don't talk!" (sarcasm).
"You should talk more" (and when I try to, the same people usually ignore me completely or cut me off and go talk to someone else instead).

Due to my blank facial expression I often here these:
"Smile!"
"What's wrong?"
"Why are you so sad?"
"Why are you so unhappy?"
"Cheer up!"
"Don't you like it?"
"You look bored."

When I sense sensory information that other people don't, I hear:
"Are you sure you're not just imagining stuff?"
"It must be all in you head, I don't smell/hear anything."
"It can be THAT bad! It's not so strong!"
"Did you just wake up?" (I can't keep my eyes fully open if there is strong light, so I apparently look like I just woke up)
"You look really tired" (when my eyes are dying from sensory issues due to strong lights).

At (or regarding) social situations, people say these:
"Go mingle with people, it'll do you good."
"If you just tried to socialize more..."
"You need to get out of your shell and socialize."
"You should go out more."
"You should go meet some people and make some friends." (Really? Duh! Can I borrow your magic wand?)

I've been called brainy, geek, nerd, encyclopedia and such for knowing a lot of things that most people don't or for having geeky interests.

I get called stupid, clumsy, uncareful, careless etc. when I have little accidents due to my poor motor skills.

Not to forget:
"Why can't you just..."
"If you just tried..."
How old are you??
Are you listening?
You can't have Asperger's syndrome, you look so normal!
You don't look autistic.

-Freaky
-Strange
-Sad
-Just a loner
-Careless
-Cold
-Indifferent

Those are the topics of what people thinks about me.

Family often just make a noice by turning away; that means Im annoying, and that only I get to hear.

currently
SHHHHHHH BE QUIET! (not sarcastic...I have trouble modulating the volume of my voice)
don't be so stubborn
don't be so rigid
I have reached my limit of how much information I can take in (my mom when I go on about something for too long)
don't write apostle emails…. or be succinct

as a child
ret*d
stupid
your sister is smarter, nicer etc. than you (this is partially true)
chatterbox
little prodigy or genius (because I rote memorized the prime numbers and rule for primes when I was 3)
look at people when they talk/speak to you
SHHHHHHH!
SMILE!
if you keep doing that (referring to a very peculiar stim that I have) in public you will end up in a little room in a hospital! (I was very frightened of this “little room”)

Things people say to me are:
- you have to pay more attention to your surroundings
- you have to talk more
- names like: schizo, cartoon image, weirdo
- pay more intention to personal hygiene
- you have to smile more
- you can do it if you try harder
- why are you always so limited?
- you have to learn to work a bit faster

"Are you alright?"
"You have strange mannerisms."
"Stand up straight!"
"Stay still."
"You look nervous."
"Are you hurt?"
"Relax."
"You talk like you know everything"

The last one makes me very anxious when I speak. I'm afraid of sounding like a know-it-all, and I really don't want to give that impression. When somebody accuses me of it, I usually just stop talking altogether.

- You think too much.

- Why aren't you saying anything?

- What are you thinking about? (Can't I even have privacy in my own mind?!)

- Smile!

- Relax! (Don't they think I would if I f*****g could?!)

- Don't try to diagnose yourself. (I actually had to find out for myself that I had Asperger's syndrome, and then basically demand my sh***y doctors to evaluate me for it. When they finally did, I met the criteria 100%.)

- When are you having kids?

- How can you not believe in monogamy?! (Usually said by people who cheat like hell or end up cheating like hell.)

- You're self absorbed. (Said by people I've gone out of my way to help.)

- I'm sure if you went to my church you'd start believing!

- I thought you would've outgrown that stuff by now.

- You actually LIKE that music?!

- You should start wearing (insert some trendy pseudo-punk Hot Topic BS here).

Maybe I just know too many annoying people...

"You're in your own little bubble" (wrong; I'm simply not talking because I have nothing to say)
"Stop ranting" (wrong; just enthusing about a special interest)
"Smile - it can't be that bad!" (what? I'm quite happy - I just have a relaxed face)
"So arrogant..." (wrong; just answering a question in detail)
"Know-it-all" (wrong; just telling you what I know about something, as requested)
"You're too honest for your own good" (you'd rather I told lies instead?)
"You're so distant" (me? I'm here and fully alert - but where the hell are you?)
"You're very quiet - what's wrong?" (nothing, nothing at all. I'm just not making a noise, Ok?)
"Stop fidgeting, will you!" (that's not a fidget, it's a very precise stim which you'll never appreciate. Why don't you stop looking instead?)
"You need to be more assertive" (I have no idea what that means)
"You never want to talk" (well of course I do, but it has to be about something)
"You just have to be different, don't you?!" (well, I am different, thank God - is that so wrong?)
"You have to have the last word, dammit!" (and why not? I haven't finished what I was saying yet)
"Now you're just being awkward" (not really - it's just that you're expecting something unrealistic from me)
And so on, ad nauseum...

As a child:
"Brains"
"Professor"
(along with all the others you've probably heard too)

I work in a small office full of technical folks so I don't hear such remarks these days as I'm pretty sure we're mostly aspies and HFA. It's pretty cool. One can have a meltdown and the rest are "ho hum" and just step back until it's over.

The remarks I heard most often were "you're so weird", "you're so smart that you're stupid" and "HOW can you KNOW that?!?!" (as if IQ points are earned in college or only college students have access to or interest in certain types of information).

edit: I dropped out of high school first chance I got.

I see a lot of people get the "Why dont you smile more?" or something similar. I got "What are you smiling about?" or "Why do you think that's funny?" Guess I smile and laugh at the wrong things! I also have always got the "You are so weird" statement so many times I say if I had a quarter for every time someone called me weird, Id be rich ! I have also been told that I am "annoying" ect. So Im an annoying, weird person who smiles and laughs too much ~.