Blending in with online communities

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I don't go out of my way to bother to make friends on online communities anymore.

I like forums, just to post in my own time, and don't talk to many people on IM.

You can't know for sure why there's no response because er, there's no response.
If it really bugged me then I'd ask.

Sometimes it does worry me a little, especially where I think I've said something that ought to have got a response (something which, if I'd read it, I would have responded to) - so I do a double-check against things that I don't respond to.
That's usually because I think a post says enough already and it's reached a natural end (I try to avoid one-liner "me too!" posts, but I'll comment if something is especially good), or because it's not an on-going discussion, or because I'm tired/can't be arsed, or because I'm just browsing the general chatter and if something really grabs my attention, I'll reply, but not otherwise.

So, assuming that's what others do, I toddle along contentedly and try not to whip myself into believing there was no response because something is wrong.
As Verandi said; "silence often seems to me to be more of a lack of response than an emotional response"

But since you'd asked a question and I thought I may have something to add, I replied - so that one worked out Ok, didn't it?

Yeah, I've met people on forums in real life, and they ALWAYS comment on how "quiet" I am, not at all how I behave online.

Wow, I think I knew that girl in high school!

I dont trust anyone, i'm very paraniod. so i usually leave forums unless i absolutely know for a fact no funny business is going on

but overall if you are a real genuine person, that isnt too full of it i'll stop by your forums everyonce inawile

I can sometimes browse for months on forums without making a single comment. Need to see what's going on first.