Getting along better with gay guys

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I can't STAND openly straight people. Always going around GRUNTING, scratching themselves, and smashing beer cans on their foreheads.

(Not really. I just felt like being a smartass. )

I don't fit in with any community, and that includes the gay community. I don't have anything against either one though. If someone wants to wear sequins and feathers or smash beer cans on their foreheads, more power to them.

I've known and had a few gay friends in the past but I wasn't particularly close with any of them. I was good friends with one guy in college with (kissed him a couple of times at a party too) but being the idiot that I was I had absolutely no clue that he was gay until years after I graduated and saw his Facebook profile.

The gays I knew had styles and tastes that would've gotten on my nerves eventually anyway. I wish it wasn't the case as the only kind of friends I'm capable of making these days are single desperate straight guys who are only befriending me as a potential future girlfriend.

My take is that homosexuals know what it's like to be excluded, so they tend to be more sympathetic and identify with other "outcasts."

When you also consider that in the gay community some gays are real fruits in their public behavior, our "quirks" are not seen as being all that odd. They're used to eccentric people.

I had a very lucky introduction to gay men when my promiscuous girlfriend introduced me to one......she was often inviting me to meet her heterosexual male friends, and as she was having affairs behind my back, I always felt hostile towards them, and also quite embarrassed because naturally it looked very possessive of me and I wasn't really sure which ones were actually up to no good. But this guy just seemed different, and it was very refreshing to feel able to accept him without the usual suspicions......I'm not usually good at reading body language but I could somehow tell that he wasn't going to be a threat to me.

So after that I had a general good feeling about gay people, and I usually found them a bit more gentle and sensitive than the average heterosexual.

I like the gays, or at least the ones I have met. They talk openly and incessantly about "taboo" things like Philosophy and Sexuality, and they naturally have to be quite individualistic, since it's kinda hard for a gay person to fit in with the Xenophobes/Masses.

I do get along with gay people better. I've got two straight male friends, one gay and one bi but is female. Anyway I get along with my gay male friend better than the two straight guys, even though I fancy one of the straight guys.
Gay males just know how to talk to me properly. Not just know how to talk to me but show that they want to talk to me. He also has bipoalr disorder so there's another reason. I've got another friend with it and they're both really chatty.
I do like over-the-top gay people too. They're fabulous.

I get on much better with straight girls than straight guys - girls are emotionally broader and generally don't have issues with being silly and joking around. Straight guys seem to have defined limits to this - presumably related to maintaining some hard-line "hunter-gatherer" thing?

The gay guys I know are much the same. I don't mean that they're at all feminine - very far from it in a couple of cases - but there's the same emotional broadness that's just easier to get on with.
It also helps that straight girls and gay guys would be ogling the same street eye-candy as I would.

Of course there are extremes and I am as easily irritated by screaming queens as I am by the beer-can/forehead grunting types.
Just mildly irritated though. It takes all types, etc. etc.

I've had a few stalkers I thought were friends.

...and at school I'm really only interested in coexisting and getting home, so people that talk to me are the only ones I make friends with.

It happens, people are people.

Perhaps gay men have to find their own way of being instead of fitting the male stereotype. So they are usually more open and tolerant of differences in other people. Whereas straight NT will find it comfortable to be a stereotypical man and want cars and girls.